MC, talked to OB/GYN extensively, she has idea of situation, sweet lady. Sounds like fugal to her. If not gone in 5 days, we will run many many tests. Was prescribed happy pills. I am on to the hard stuff because i feel that I am depressed at this point.
H been putting lots in love bank lately, I am both happy and scared. Is he working on marriage? Is he putting up smoke screen? Is he scared of upcoming anniv? I am trying hard not to stay withdrawn and blind to "efforts" he makes. I hope to God they are efforts and not smoke screens.
How are you doing?

2ndfiddle -- I am doing good. Last night my H actually made the first move!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> He started getting tired on the couch... so he said "let's watch this upstairs", I thought he was going to fall asleep! (NOT!!!)

I'm glad you are taking something to help you with depression! It takes a strong person to ask for help!

As for the OB/GYN... I'm glad you talked to her! and I hope it is nothing! It's wierd what an A does to the BS... After I found out about my H's A, I got a yeast infection! I had never had one before, and my mind started racing!!! I thought he had given me something... turned out to be from the antibiotics I was given from my dentist! (WHEW!) But until I had it confirmed by the doctor, I was scared to death! So I can understand how you feel!

My thought are with you!

-mc

MC,
Glad to hear you and yours are doing well.
MY thoughts are with you as well.
Here is a great big cyber hug. I trust your weekend will go well.
May I add you to my buddy list, however that works? It's nice to know someone is checking in with you, isn't it?
xo

After years of talking, battling, coercing, crying with my H to curb his porn (and keep it away from the kids) I talked with him recently about how I thought he was addicted to porn and got the ol' argument back "I can quit anytime".
I asked him to try and quit for a month and we would talk at the end and see how it went...

He did, and things went pretty well. He's back to it now...but that's another story.

If it's the right time, you could get him to stop for awhile to "prove" to you he doesn't have a problem, and hopefully get him out of the fog long enough to reason with him about how it's a problem.

I agree it's selfish, and it's like having an A. I never had a problem with it before, but for some men it's alcoholism, one beer is too much...it escalates. This sounds like your H. He uses masturbation as an escape, as a drug, and the worse he feels, the more he will seek that pleasure.

happy happy joy joy

oops, i was sarcastic.

StillHere- yup, sounds like it. It's a tough one, isn't it. Hard not to try to keep him happy, like he is looking for, someone else to solve his problems and take responcibility. BUT, i know better, he is responcible for his feelings, i can only be a catalist.

2ndfiddle - I hope you had a good weekend! Mine was busy, but good!

You know, it's wierd, but I have been on MB for over a year, and you are only the second person I have really conected with! I think that a lot of people saw that the FOW was my sister, and they avoided my posts like the plague!!! But there is so much more going on than just that part of it!!! I really just wanted someone to confide in who understood the pain of being the BS!!! (along with all the "other" stuff!!!)

I'm glad we found each other. I was beginning to feel like the only person who had a H who "took care of himself" like mine does.

I talked to my H again, and said that I am not against masterbation, as long as it is not a deep dark secret!! And if the "pressure" builds up again, LET ME KNOW!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hope to hear from you soon!!!
-mc

hey MC
a long week end away from the computer.
my H and I haven't talked at all lately about the Masterbation issue. seems as thoug he has either put that on the back burner or put me on the front burner. we has actually had sex 3x this past week. that is an all time record for us.
yesterday was our anniv. i hope i am not being paranoid in partially thinking that his attention to me was only to better our day. I would like to think that allof the 'deposits in the love bank' were genuine.
as far as some one actually setting out to make your life a living h**l? i have an x-friend who tried that one. almost succeeded. her life was going down the tubes in a huge way, mine was looking like it had great potential. as she was posing as my confidant when my H was spinning out of control , she was using the info to spin him even faster and get on his better side. i still suspect that they had an affair for various reasons. mostly 'cause when i asked her if they had slept together before my H and i got togehter, she just smiled, giggled and said that she couldn't say. my H denies it all too defencively. i had asked after we got married. then there is the missing and un accountable time that they share. long story.
hang in there,
hugs
me