Claire,

Oh my gosh!!!!The evil twin was meant as humor. I know I am the one who brought it up and I feel just awful.

Mostly it is my shadow on the wall, like in Mad Magazine, remember? Anyway, not what I would ever do, but only my shadow on the wall.

Oh, I feel so guilty. Please just do the plan A if you can, or continue plan B. Don't give WS or ow any reason to make you the bad person, because you are NOT. You are good. Having a bad time. Sorry if I put bad thoughts into your head. Please forgive me.

Praying for forgiveness for me and recovey in God's hands with you. Please, I apologize if I put any thing into your head that shouldn't be there.

Evil twin was meant for shadow on the wall, not for real.!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Still holding you up to the Lord,

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Awwwhhh, com' on Miss M, that evil twin stuff didn't hurt.....yet he he he!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Just what was needed. If the BS acts perfect all the time, the WS will never see the opportunity of what he is losing.

Why? Because he is in the fog and warped in his thinking. WS' think a crooked road is fun....until you have to travel it everyday.

Don't feel guilty, Claire needed to do this and she is ok.

If my grandmother was advising her, I think she would have been more bold. You know this stuff does not leave one's mind even if they are in recovery.

Why just today, I was thinking if I was still dealing with the OW in my life, there would be certain things I would do differently.

Some pretty outlandish ideas have crossed my mind and a few more still keep popping up. Now if the OPs and WS' can use normal tools and thoughts then twist them to advance an A, why shouldn't a BS have a similar advantage? Of course, the BS s/b guided by 'higher' and more moral support but I don't really see where a few 'stress relievers' would hurt. As long as it is not violent or dangerous.

Give those WS' & Ops something to think about. Seems like that is the one part of their bodies, they don't use enough.

IMHO,
L.

Miss M,

Don't stress!! I am under control. The evil twin IS a joke. As for last night's antics ... well, it's not in the spirit of Plan B, I will admit. It was an insensitive practical joke.

BTW, WH texted my friend's phone with:
"Why did you send me a picture of my wife with another man?" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I feel it is almost time for Plan D. So there isn't much left to lose here.

WH could have been there, but chose OW instead. Him not being able to get rid of OW on my birthday, and instead going to a Buddhist Birthday Party for the Dalai Lama is something I can't forgive. Selfish of me, yes. I tend to have a bad time around my birthday since I had to go to my boyfriend's funeral the day I turned 21. I do forgive myself for getting a little carried away by the occasion.

Like I said, there isn't much left to lose now, except for an adulterous husband with a addiction to porn and chinese girls, who has left the Christian faith in search of enlightenment..

I've never really looked into it before...
...but this link on Buddhist Sexual Ethics shows how perverse the attitude on 'sex'/'marriage' is by this 'religion?'

A few brief excerpts...

..."Marriage is a civil matter in Buddhist countries, it has nothing to do with spiritual practice as such..."

... Buddhism is notorious for its habit of putting points of practice and doctrine into lists. So where is Buddhism's list of naughty sexual practices? The answer is short and sweet. Buddhism doesn't (for once!) have a list....

..."we can conclude that Salon Kitty['one of the world's leading BDSM houses.'] comes closer to Dhamma..."

Clearly...
...there is little if any doubt that Buddhism has NO compatibililty with Marriage Builder's concepts... AT ALL!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Jim/NSR

Thank you Jim for this helpful article. It's true: there is no list of wrongs here, only guidance for behaving in a correct manner, which of course is up to individual interpretation. No wonder WH started calling me "Black and white" with my adherance to a list of God-given rules for living. Well, let WH have his enlightenment.

I really AM going away today, roads were closed yesterday due to snow. Have a good week everyone!