How did you know there was a tap on the phone? Was it their word?

I tried to get one, and my phone company would not do it, unless their was a court order. Those are hard to get. They have to have proof of something to get it. The best I could do was have the calls traced. I found the whole system totally useless.

Calling to tell the H how the CS hearing went is not harrassment. Did you say anything out of line during that conversation?

I don't believe something like that will be that big of an issue in child custody battles. I'm sure the judges are used to all tactics.

But I understand when it is your kids. Anything that is a risk, is too much of a risk.

I think the other posters are right, when they say it is all control tactics.

I would try to keep all communication in written format from this point forward, and be civil in them, and make copies.

Good luck to you.

Oh, I fogot to say, if he could not get his tushy to the CS hearing, then that is just too bad for him. If it mattered all that much to him, then he would have been there. It is not your job to tell him what he missed. I know you were doing it out of courtesy. You owe him nothing. Let him lie in his own mess.

thanks guys you are the best and I know I'm not listening to everything you say, I am getting stronger. I am staying away from his family as much as possible.