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#1102788 12/12/03 01:46 AM
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We have been married 22 years. This Christmas his children and mine our having Christmas morning at our house with my parents. His daughters are having Christmas Eve with their mother and want to bring her to Christmas morning at our house. He told his daughter yes, but I disagree I don't think she belongs with us. Help what do I do now?

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Gail..
with all respect isn't that really what Christmas is about...

You've been married 22 years...
the house if full of your kids
his kids..

so for what? 4-5 hours she is in your home...and you've been his wife for 22 years...
does that really threaten you?...

kiss your hubby and tell him she is welcome..

and the alternative...is everyone at your home, Christmas spirit abounding...and her, home alone..
or with friends..not her own children... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I think since you asked...
and since you are celebrating Christmas..
you welcome her to your home...

As the who's in whoville say..

"welcome, welcome, Christmas come this way..."

you did ask... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Hi gail,

What has your relationship with the xW been in the past? Is she nice,mean? Do you have any kind of relationship? Does she have anyone else she would be spending the holidays with?

I agree it would be nice if you could,out of the goodness of your heart, invite the x.Unless she was the type of person that made life difficult for you etc.show your husband what a big heart you have this time of year. At least say that it is ok and if she refuses, then that's that.IMHO.

I know that if my kids were away from me during the holidays, I would be heartbroken.If you are really uncomfortable with it though,and there's a chance the xW would have the girls the other half of the day,then tell your H how you feel.

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