FL...I'm so sorry that I didn't read your reply sooner. I'm glad that mrsx copied the thread here. One thing about my experience here that I didn't realize in that particular thread I left out, is that this man that God used to pray with me didn't know me at all nor was there anything said by me at all for what I needed prayer for. God inspired this prayer completely. One of my favorite shows is "Touched by an Angel" If you've ever watched it you know the part when Monica "lights up" and gives words of encouragement to that episodes case. This was such a "touched by an angel" moment.

I'm sorry that things aren't going so well with you. My H sounds a lot like yours. He holds so much in and I have never felt like I could really
confide in him or vice versa about how this whole ordeal has effected us. Like you, I tried so hard to put on the happy face when I would come home from work. I can't make him confide in me. I understand that he has to deal in his own way just like I have. But I do worry about him. The one thing that I find absolutely amazing about my H is that he has never thrown any of this back in my face. I don't know that I would have been so "mindful" for lack of a better word.

He has proven that his love and respect for me is unconditional. I do hope that you and H can eventually talk things out in an open and honest way. My H and I need that but I won't push him. I think that men in general have a hard time expressing emotions that affect them as deeply as these situations do.

ok guys...I'm really losing it here...I posted this to the wrong thread. How do I move it to Finally Learning's thread?

Lisa,

Piece of cake. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Just hilight all of your post, copy it to your computers clip board, usually under "edit" click "copy". Then open the thread you want to post to, start up a reply, the click on "edit" and click on "paste" and you will have it there. Then come back and edit this thread and remove the message here, and leave an "oops" or something.

Chris,

I am very glad to hear that things are going well for you and your W. Keep up the good work.

God Bless,

JL

hey SG: just checking in, everything still OK with you? Chris

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by chris37:
<strong> hey SG: just checking in, everything still OK with you? Chris </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yea, SG what's going on honey? Thanks Chris for bumping this thread. How are you doing?

SG, Lisa, where are you ladies??

mrsx

<small>[ March 25, 2004, 12:34 PM: Message edited by: chris37 ]</small>

<small>[ March 26, 2004, 01:01 PM: Message edited by: chris37 ]</small>

Hey guys-
SO SORRY that I haven't had a chance to get on the internet and post to you guys for awhile. I have been working 12 hour days and it's so hard because I don't get home until late and then I have to try to get things done around the house, etc. So, I'm so sorry that it's been hectic.

Chris- Did you think of anything to do for your wife and the surprise cruise you got her for her birthday? I think you should take her out to eat at a really fancy restaurant and give it to her there somehow. I know it's not very original but it's a nice romantic setting and she probably won't be expecting it since you guys are out eating (she'll probably just be really focused on the meal and enjoying that and not expecting anything else at all). Anyways, it's a hard thing to come up with anything more original when I don't know where you live and what's in your area.

As for me, all is great here. My H and I are doing well. OM is still around and in fact I saw him at work the other day very briefly. I didn't say anything to him and he didn't to me either but I could tell he was "checking me out". I just ignored him and I think it made him nervous. It's wierd because I looked at him and I wasn't seeing him through rose colored glasses anymore- he no longer had that "aura" about him that he did when we were involved. In fact, I thought he looked rather rough and not good at all. Needless to say, it was tough seeing him but I definately look at him differently now then I used to. I think I felt more sickened by seeing him than anything else. And, of course my H knows of the contact (well, of the encounter since it wasn't really contact since no words were spoken).

Anyways, I hope that all is well here with everyone: KiwiJ, Mrsx, Lisa, Chris, etc.

Take care and I'll check back soon.

SG

Hey girlfriend <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !!! Nice to see you back. Yesterday was the first day that I've been on here in about a week myself. Let me tell you, the pollen in Georgia right now is causing everyone major allergy problems <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> !!! You can tell the cars from out of state when you're driving on the interstate. They don't have that nice layer of yellow dust on them and these people aren't sneezing their heads off!!!

It's good to see that things are going well for you. I just wanted to say hi!!

Hey Lisa-

Unfortunately in Minnesota we don't have to worry about pollen and allergies right now- we're still trying to survive the arctic cold <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
No, actually it's been warm this week so it gives you a touch of spring fever.
How are things with you? I hope all is well and I hope you survive the pollen.

SG

SG: glad everything is going good for you, I bet the 12 hr day’s suck, good for the pocket book I hope. Everything with me is going great. My wife’s birthday was a huge success. I rented a limo for the night, we had dinner at a new restaurant, and then went to the casinos. After a couple hours of gambling, I had the following announced over the PA system “would “wife” please report to cashier to claim prize”. My wife look at me I said I have no idea…maybe it’s not you. Lets go find out. So we went to the cashier office and the lady checked her ID and handed my wife an envelope. When she opened the envelope read my letter and saw where we were going, a tear ran down her cheek. She hugs me and whispers in my ear Let’s go for a drive. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> So thats what I came up with. Chris

Oh Sh**, I was just going through a drawer in my office. I thought I had thrown everything from OW out. I f-ing want to throw up....a card, A
f-ing anniversary card from the OW. Signed I Love you baby!!!! Always!!! Love-Your Honey!! OMG My eyes are filling up…..Sh*t… 4 F-ing Months into NC, WOW I think this is a trigger….Helpppppp!!! Chris

Hi SG..Chris...you get rid of that card!!!! I'm sending a 2 x4 your way to chill you out. That card was from another lifetime...

SG..Minnesota....oooooohhhhhh...I bet it is still cold there. I'll settle for the pollen <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !! Let me ask you a question. I know that you and Chris were discussing this once before so I would like Chris' opinion too. Does the OP still haunt you in your dreams occasionally?

Chris...what a sweet thing you did for your wife's b.day. That makes a tear run down my cheek too <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Chris, (our honourary girl <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> )I didn't want to burst your bubble a little while ago when you were doing so well. But I finished A in June last year (quite a while ago I think you'll agree) very brief contacts twice since - the triggers are everywhere - but I fight them. Throw the (edited by me for bad language) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> thing away and move on.

Jenny

<small>[ March 30, 2004, 04:39 PM: Message edited by: KiwiJ ]</small>

Read Chris37 thread titled:
"It feels like day 1 all over....Help"

Chris-
GREAT JOB

Chris-
GREAT JOB with your wife's birthday!! Wow, you did a great job! I'm so sorry about that stupid card! I just read that today and I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you and I know it's not easy. I came across somethings that were triggers for me a couple days ago and it made me feel like Sh&t. As hard as I try to get past this there's always something that seems to come up that sets me back and sometimes I wonder if the fight is worth it. But, remember, we have far more good days now then bad days and we're winning our struggle. It might be slowly, but it's steadily. Each day that passes gets us farther away from the mess that once was a part of our lives. Stay strong, you're a strong man and you've survived without her for 4 months and you've proved to yourself that you can be happy without her so keep proving that to yourself. I know it sucks, but try not to dwell on it and stay strong. Throw the stupid thing away and don't look back. We're here for you!

SG

*bump*

Thanks Kiwi!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />