And, I don't even need him to ever come back anyway. I killed a HUGE spider, by myself, last night in my bedroom. And I tried to get another this morning as it ran by the wall next to me while I was posting, but it got away.

I have my spider-killing kit handy, though. It is a papertowel (to soak up the juices and be put into the garbage, or flushed down the toilet just to be sure it is dead), with one of WH's old dress shoes. I put the papertowel on the sole of the shoe, whack the spider, press extra hard to make sure it is dead, and last night I flushed it for good measure.

Anywhere but my bedroom, I will just put it in the garbage. With the bedroom, I cannot take any chances. But I don't want to mess up my plumbing flushing Quicker Picker Upper Bounty.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Amy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

EEeeewwww! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I HATE spiders!!!

I grew up on a farm in southern Iowa where the big ones that you could see all 8 eyes on would crawl up from holes in the yard and would come visit inside our house when the weather was cold in the fall. TOO many experiences going to the bathroom as a kid in the middle of the night and looking down by my feet near the heat duct and, in the glow of the nightlight, seeing one of those big hairy boogers. Icky, ICKY, ICKY!!!

I'm not scared of snakes (as long as they're not poisonous), not scared of mice, DD had a rat as a pet that just passed away a couple months ago and I would get it out and play with it. Spiders (and to an almost equal degree...big red centipedes) just CREEP ME OUT! I freeze, I scream, and there'd better be someone else there to kill 'em.

So you go girl!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

LL

Amy

We had a big black spider last night also. Get this I am screaming at my D to get me a shoe to kill it, and my S starts crying saying no don't kill it. So D gets me a bowl and we put it outside. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> How is that for strong? I hate spiders too! See we can do it... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ok spider killer extrodinaire

How are you with ants. I am having a problem with them right now. Using ant killer, but they still keep a coming. Any tips???

I guess going to the meeting is OK as long as YOU feel you can cope with it. Do what is right for you Amy. Myself, I think I would go, but I am not you.

Keep smiling and killing those spiders

I stopped killing spiders in my house the last month or so. It is nice to have someone to talk to. The Beta fish I have isn't much of a conversationalist(big word). Then again neither are the spiders. I better not tell my IC about this, he may have me committed.

says he can never trust me again. Has lost all faith in me.

IF he says this again in IC next week..

I want you to bend over in your chair and laugh harder than you have ever laughed before in your life...
I want you grabbing your stomache..
gasping for air..
tears streaming downing your eyes...begging for a tissue....
laughing like tom hanks in the money pit..
jumping up and down stating you are going to pee your pants if he doesn't stop being sooo funny...

take as long as you need...to do this..

then when you are finished take a deep breath..and say...

"Did I mention to you both how good I have become at killing spiders?"

bat eyes....and say...
I'm sorry... go on dear..what were you saying?.......

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ARK

<small>[ March 03, 2004, 09:37 PM: Message edited by: ark^^ ]</small>

Thank you all of my dear new friends for your humor and support. I have arrived at a place of true ambilvalence with regards to my M.

I am about to disengage from the rollercoaster ride from he**. If WH pulls any more of his anger-finger-pointing fogese at me again, he will promptly be served with a Plan B letter.

As a matter of fact, I will begin the draft of said letter this week. I will have it ready for distribution on an instant's notice.

I am done being his projection of guilt, shame, and pain. He can deal with his all on his own, just like I have. Well, I have had you all, and I am so grateful.

I offered this site to him. He says he's been here once. He does not like the NC part with the OP. He finds it offensive. He doesn't like the NC part that everyone tells him.

Too bad. He needs to decide if he is going to try and make it work with a family who loves him, and a pretty da** awesome W who is willing to forgive his wretched a**. OR live in a crumbling fantasy world, where the object of his lust and desire won't hardly even give him the time of day.

It was marginally comforting today to realize that he went to his counselor, and not to her. I'm sure he wanted to run to her, but either she turned him away, or he doesn't feel able to get comfort from her.

Either way, good for me, and good for him in the long run - even though he can't possibly see the long run with his head up his [censored], and not being able to see past the end of his nose, and all!!!

Anyway, I'll keep you posted. I'm wondering what to do about the Scout issue for now. I wonder if I should remind him in my next email to him that he needs to be saying his goodbye's at Scouts in this next week, and start looking for a new troop. He is not going to drag this out another month.

Give me your thoughts on that. And don't hold back this time, ARK! Geez. Call 'em like you see 'em, for crying out loud. Don't be shy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Amy

Amy,

Good Luck with the IC....I'm praying that it will help you in your journey <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ March 04, 2004, 08:34 AM: Message edited by: star*fish ]</small>

I agree, star*fish. I was thinking along those same lines myself. I believe your suggestion will work well. I will be editing one other of my posts on this thread, as well, then editing this one after you know I have received your message.

Thank you. Be looking for the dangerous one soon! ME!

Amy

And what should I do about Scouts? I think he is using this to stall.

Should I wait until appointment on Tuesday and say that he needs to look for a new Troop, because the March 15 meeting will be their last?

Amy

Amy

Stand firm on the scouts thing. If nothing else protect your boys! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I just sent him a reply email regarding his proposed visitation schedule. And in it I proposed that March 15 be their final meeting in that Troop.

It will probably inflame him, but we'll talk about that on Tuesday at his IC meeting.

Amy

Oh my gosh, I just read ark's post and am laughing so hard I'm crying (at work). I can jsut see Amy doing that and then bragging about her new spider killing talent.

Well, I hate to toot my own horn, and all, but I am quite good at it.

I think I need to stragetically place a couple of kits around the house, though. Running from room to room to get my equipment is giving these spiders too much time to run for their lives!

I have truly been reborn. This whole thing is going to be done my way from now on.

My power is back. Do you feel it?????

SS

Love the new name!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

LL

Confused and scared:

[ I am having a problem with them right now. Using ant killer, but they still keep a coming. Any tips???]]

Get a spray bottle, and fill it with some neutral detergent (like pinesol or something) and water. Spray it on the ants. It clogs their breathing tubes, and they suffocate. Spray it on the path they travel. It wipes out the scent they lay down to follow. And you don't have to smell the Raid smell.

This also works with spiders. Slows them down enough so you can squash them. Also on wasps, bees,hornets, yellow jackets.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ March 04, 2004, 11:43 AM: Message edited by: Bellevue ]</small>

C&S

Also Terro ant killer is the best for me. You put a little on a piece of cardboard and they take it back to the nest and they all die. You never see them again. It takes about 3 days, and it is very poisonous for people, kids and animals so be careful. It works very good though.

Should I wait until appointment on Tuesday and say that he needs to look for a new Troop, because the March 15 meeting will be their last?

ummmmm I am a little confused on this...

why would you say anything too him about what he needs to do?

He can go to any troop, den, batcave he wants to...

You should have nothing to say about it...

I thought that is what the decision is...

you can do what you do..
as for me and mine we will no longer be going to THESE meetings...

you have no right to tell him anything...
you have EVERY right to protect YOUR children from exposure to the OW...
especially for the 'sake of the kids"
especially since it's "all about the kids"
protection they need from his and her thinking

I thought you had told him already the boys are done...

next meeting night I expect you and kids to be "out" somewhere...if that's what you need to do...
I mean isn't he the leader..doesn't he have to get his tail to scouts...
wouldn't you and the boys be out somewhere that night anyways???

ARK

now it's time to let this thread sink off the board...in the meantime...edit the title and start a new thread. New and old shouldn't be on the same thread....too easy to track <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . I'm off to New Oleans...check you out when I get back.