Latest Update: Wed. evening Deb phoned and wanted me to bring takeout wings down her place and watch a movie...all was great and she asked me to stay, again deciced to move back home and wanted to make plans for the weekend. Thursday afternoon she called and told me she didn't want to make her eve. appt. with the counselor. Today....she let me know for the 5th. time...to not see or talk to her, she wanted time alone again, that not really what she wants but the counselor suggests that. Man...what a roller coastewr ride...she is suppose to call me at bedtime...who knows what that means????

SEE! I told you women
are complex! Don't try
to figure her out-she
doesn't even know herself
what she wants. Encourage
her to continue w/ IC.
Give yourself the gift of
doing some things you have
wanted to do & put off.
take a break & go relax.
Really let her see you
taking care of you-I want
you to know that the Lord
will give you the strength
you need to see this clearly
and HE will be patient-so
should you! pal

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Update and my latest blunder. Starting last sat., everything started to fall back into place. On that morning deb phoned and asked me to spend the day....we went to the mall, lunch etc..we had a great time and she told me that her Mother had finally gave her support and that if she wanted to get back with me to do so. Deb said it felt as if a ton was lifted from her...and she loves me and planned to move back the 7/4 weekend. We spend that night together and after spending the morning/Father's day with my son. Deb planned and did do a motorcycle ride with me Sunday eve... things cont. great until Wed. eve when I "lovebusted" by saying mean and stupid stuff...due to the fact I tried to get a bunch of things done prior to her heading away Thursday morning for her families place about 4 hrs. away. I know that this happened cause of my wanting to be with her Wed. night...and for the weekend...but previous palns to have my son did'nt let me have the time to spend with Deb....and I freaked...I should of been loving and wished her off happy and kept my LB mouth shut. I saw a Christian Counselor last night and...she said I need to learn to not say things that are bitter or make Deb think I'm only thinking of myself. She did call me this evening and talk for 35 min....she said she's tired of telling me to get my head out of my butt. The tongue is sharper than a sword...how does one change this?

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welderboy - I think you just learn to think before you speak. Start practicing it all of the time, even at work.

Once things come out of your mouth, they are hard to take back, and never forgotten.

There's times when I catch myself...then W says.."Hey you started to say something?...please finish it". I guess in that case...you really got to "THINK".She is away at families place at renuion that ended up being a funeral also. I'm taking my son home early in the morning and heading down there on my Harley to attend with her and her family...I think the 4 1/2 hr. ride will help my head also...hate to miss church though.

welderboy - My pastor gave a sermon about the power of the tongue. He gave an example that the bit in a horse's mouth, ruled the whole horse.

The tongue is very powerful. But we need to tame it. I hope that you will.

Believer, thanks can you remember anything else about that sermon? Maybe some scriptures? Thanks.

Frustrated-I can imagine!
are you reading "his needs-
her needs?" it will help you
to think about helping
her get to where you want
her to be-with you! you
needs to have the tools to
do the job-youre a welder,
you know that! BUT.....
guess what!? we are all
human-we are not perfect-
we leave that to God-
read-pray-pray-read-pray
some moremoremoremore....
I will..............pal

Hey, Peaceandlove....you really always brighten my day. Thanks much, and you also are in my prayers tonight. God Bless.

Better weekend? I am
hoping so for you & Deb.
Me & H-BUSY! He says "I
have to go back to work
to rest!" I am busy with
summer midterms & home
projects- & my renewed
interest-GOLF! I like
the relaxed game-& being
outside-
you-have a good week!
tell me about it soon-
pal

Weekend was kind of confusing...Deb went to her parents home, away. She phoned each day...but seemed distant. I know she was to see the counselor last night, but I haven't heard from her and I been letting her make the 1st contact.
Thanks and God Bless.