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Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117422 03/10/04 02:42 AM
Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 6 L LuvMIA Junior Member
LuvMIA Junior Member L Joined: Mar 2004 Posts: 6	Well, this X-OW has read this thread (and I do stress the "X" part). (I saw one thread after lurking that said OP are welcome, as long as no flaming is allowed, so here I am.) What all of you said was insightful, and that's why I broke off contact with my xMM. Surely I have to be capable of accomplishing a lot more in life than hurt and pain. I know I didn't help any of your spouses betray you, but I want you all to know how deeply sorry I am for what happened to you. Looking back, I'm shocked that I could have done something like that. I guess when I marry, I deserve the same thing, right? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117423 03/10/04 02:48 AM
Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837 O Orchid Member
Orchid Member O Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837	LuvMIA, Well the fact that you can read this and still be post here takes a lot of guts. IMHO, that is. Of course Xops are always welcome. It's the one's who want to defend and promote their OP ways that usually raise my dander. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Wishing you well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> L.

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117424 03/10/04 02:56 AM
Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837 O Orchid Member
Orchid Member O Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837	Here I am wishin' again. LOL!! 1. Wish OWs would keep their clothes on and their mouths shut. 2. Wish OWs would stop pretending to be the Mrs. _______ when they don't have the license and didn't take the vow with God's approval. Whew! Had to get that off my chest. Good night. L.

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117425 03/10/04 07:46 AM
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 673 S stillsosad OP Member
OP stillsosad Member S Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 673	bump for merge <small>[ March 10, 2004, 06:46 AM: Message edited by: stillsosad ]</small>

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117426 03/10/04 09:04 AM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965 T turtlehead Member
turtlehead Member T Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965	Thought of something else I wish OP knew. OW told my H she couldn't imagine why I was still hanging around, that I must not have ANY self respect, and she certainly wouldn't stand by and be a doormat like I was doing. Heh. I wish OW knew that it's so easy to run, but it takes real strength to stay and work through the issues.

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117427 03/10/04 09:16 AM
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 673 S stillsosad OP Member
OP stillsosad Member S Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 673	You are so right turtle! Hmmmm...OW wasn't standing by was she? She was laying flat on her back! You can't have a real relationship when you are horizontal most of the time. Take care. sss

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117428 03/10/04 09:47 AM
Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 1,240 3 3isacrowd Member
3isacrowd Member 3 Joined: Nov 2002 Posts: 1,240	Its not what I would want her to know but more what I want her to realize: She is a sorry individal She is a horriable roll moble for her daughter H lied to her as well as me She IS a coward AND wake up he lives home with me !!!!!!!! There are alot of others but I can stop there for now . OH and what comes around goes around .

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117429 03/11/04 01:44 AM
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 661 J jamup Member
jamup Member J Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 661	I wish FOW would have BELIEVED my husband when he talked good about me at work. Maybe then she would have realized that any relationship she had with him would be brief, bittersweet, and end with him have absolutely NO use for her. I wish she knew you can not improve your self-esteem by borrowing married men. (In the end your self-esteem takes a brutal beating because you (the hot new thing) gets dumped for the plain jane same ol' same ol' wife). I wish the OW had known that my H and I truely are soul mates and are as happy as we've ever been in spite of her efforts to destroy us. I wish the OW knew Jesus.

Re: What I wish OW(s) knew. What do you wish? #1117430 03/11/04 01:46 AM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965 T turtlehead Member
turtlehead Member T Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,965	jamup said </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">(In the end your self-esteem takes a brutal beating because you (the hot new thing) gets dumped for the plain jane same ol' same ol' wife).</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WOW, I never looked at it that way. I LIKE it! Neener, neener, neener, you nasty OP, you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

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