NY,

I can't imagine my WH being a drinker on top of everything else. My first H was an alcoholic and it was no fun. I tried with him but he was just too addicted and wouldn't even admit it so he didn't want help.

My WH will actually admit that he can't control his drinking. He knows it's a problem. He just hasn't reached the point, I don't believe, where he wants to quit. He doesn't know how to handle stressful situations sober, though for the last 2 years he'd done very well even with my Mom's money problems and our DD's behavior problems.

We haven't seen each other at all not once since the 5th,

My WH and I had spoken, but when I saw him Monday night, it'd been 3 weeks since we'd seen each other. You're doing great. Keep it up.

I have the house, the kids, most of his money, my new truck, the dogs. I pretty much have life by the [censored]. Pretty good setup, and he wasn't here much anyway. Worked nights for the last 7 years, so it is almost like he is at work all the time anyway.

I also have the house, mainly my $ but enough of his to live without starving, a nice car (he can keep his 2000 truck--I find it hard to drive), my son's car, and the dogs. He has the Harley, but I can't drive it either. And while my WH didn't work nights, he was always late coming home from work--liked hanging out shooting the bull with the shop guys and dinking around on each others vehicles, so on weeknights it's not as hard for me either because I just pretend he's not home yet. I think that's why I crash so bad on weekends, though. He was usually home every weekend.

I do think this would be even more difficult for someone who is used to their WH or WW being home each night right after work and being around all weekend.

LL

Hey everyone, I'm still here. I was very busy at work today and didn't post too much. After all I have to do some work. But I don't feel bad about posting because I do get to work an hour and a half early everyday. So I donate some time to the job.

Now don't get mad at me, but it was 80 degrees today. Two weeks ago I went swimming in the ocean and the water was fine. But I do like to see the snow on TV.

I hope everyone will stay in the Plan they are in. It is necessary to follow the plan very carefully. I have not done that, and it has not helped my marriage any.

Ladies, I missed your disccussion last night.

My Wh used to come home every sigle night on time, every weekend with us. Never went out by himself, except some summer weekends, we went fishing for one day. We had so much fun time together as a family. That is why it is so hard for me and kids with all the sudden change. It is way too hard.

L&H

You didn't miss much. I went to bed early too! Very tired from all this snow I had to move yesterday. I wish spring would hurry up and get here, but then there is lawn to mow and we have 3 acres. I think I will hire someone, with my back it just isn't possible for me to do. I hope you are doing better today. Just keep with the plan and look to the big guy in the sky. He keeps me sane. You are gonna get through this with or without him, just like the rest of us. I just happen to be at the angry stage now, so it is easy for me to use the anger to get through the days. It helps me get rid of the anger also, so I won't have it later. Have a good day! I have to go plow again. Ugg! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

NY, don't work too hard on yourself. Snow can melt. If you can drive out of the drive way, that is enough.

You can let out some of your anger while plowing too. Take care.