Believer, I hope you feel better today after going through all these. I heart is with you. I will pray for you and me.

Thanks everyone, but I feel worse today. I never swear, ever. But last night I did. Today I feel bad about it. I am going to change the locks, I don't care if it is against the law. I'm tired of him popping in whenever he feels like it.

Believer,good for you, change the lock. I hope that I can cheer you up.

I went to the store to buy lamps <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> but it is not open yet. Guess they don't think I need a lamp either. I also have an idea. I will try to enter the Extreme House Makeover, my reason is that they can save a marriage if they can do it for me(my extreme Marriage makeover).

Good idea. Wouldn't that be great? Your house is fine the way it is though.

And don't clean up after the kids. That's what I did and it got where they thought they had a maid. For the last 5 years, I've made them do everything themselves. It is good for them to learn.

Believer, i am reading LostVa's story linked by NY. It is so inspiring. I decided to go her path. I feel much stronger now, even once a while i don't feel good. You are my role model too. Take care, and have a good day today. There are many good ones ahead.

Believer -

Does WH know changing the locks is agains the law? I am so interested to hear his reaction.

Is that wrong of me?

If he knows it is illegal, will he make a stink and call the cops and throw a fit?

And if he doesn't know, will he call the cops and throw a fit?

With his obvious dependence on you still, I cannot imagine he will just let it go, either way.

I certainly hope he doesn't get beligerent or anything crazy.

Do you have any predictions?

SS

Hi believer I don't usually reply very often always feel that I have nothing to contribute but I saw this and wonder if it would help.

Once you're free, stay free. When you uproot a plant, it may look good for a while, but unless it's replanted in healthy soil and properly tended it'll die. When God delivers you from something harmful, it's to attach you to something healthy. He takes you out of a bad situation in order to place you in a good one: otherwise, you'll seek out your old connections. So look out for the 'sifter' You'll win over temptation only if you want to.

I am in plan b also and sometimes find it hard to stick to but I find strength from friends here and God and resist the urge to contact WH. I guess it is hard for you as your WH keeps turning up unannounced and unexpected, just a thought, if you cannot change the locks or even better still ask for his keys back, could you say to him that you don't want to discuss anything with him and instead of asking about the OW just refer him back to the plan B letter then turn right round and go out, maybe to a neighbours. As we all say to ourselves at some point, surely if he so wants to return he will do anything to come home.