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I think in his mind he is quite comfortable with his decision to not work on our marriage.
He didn't make a decision to not work on the marriage.
It's just the opposite.
He DIDN'T make a decision to do work/not work on the marriage.
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chris, could you explain what you said little more?
<small>[ March 22, 2004, 10:10 AM: Message edited by: roughroad ]</small>
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You wrote, "I think in his mind he is quite comfortable with his decision to not work on our marriage."
If he made a decision to NOT work on the marriage, he would divorce.
He didn't make ANY decision on the marriage. He is just not doing anything FOR the marriage.
This is a pretty "normal" action of the ws.
It's easier to do nothing. If he was to do something, he would have to deal with the situation and that's not easy to do when you mess up so badly.
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so do you think that if he brought over D papers it would be more clear would his decision is? even if that does happen (pleas God no) it's got to be him, i'm not going to pursue anything like that and i know i can drag things out for a long time (as painful as it may be).
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so do you think that if he brought over D papers it would be more clear would his decision is?
Yeah, it would be a bit clearer.
However, if he did bring over papers for you to sign, you do NOT have to sign them.
The only way to get papers properly (check with a lawyer in your state) is to get served or sign a waiver of service.
This means he gives them to you and you sign a paper stating you have received them and agree that you do not need to be served.
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