WH called my mom and told her to stop the meeting. My mom said no. He told my mom the best fog excuse ever!! He said the only reason he is staying with OW is to help her avoid her exbf who is currently harrasing.

Then he said the meanest thing ever to my mom. He told her i also had a dark secret of my own. I do so i had to tell my mom about it.

6 years ago before my daughter was born i had an internet emotional affair. Even flew to the place of the married man and met him. But immediately i knew it was all wrong and ended it. I kept the secret and WH never knew. Yes...perhaps it was wrong for me to keep it but i did not learn of MB then. Because of MB that was why i finally told him in January. I regret telling him because he is now using that as an excuse to everyone concern. I shared with him the secret hoping it would make him see that i understand what he was going through. I guess being honest with a person in foggyland is not a good idea. He is using my honesty about my own infidelity as a weapon to justify his current action.

He wanted a meeting with my mom, MIL and me tonight. Then he said he will go to OW and meet with OW parents. My mom did not agree. My mom told him, we should all meet together.

If and when there is a meeting...what should i do?

i have no real experience w/dealling with the OW parents yet but will be exposing the A to them tomorrow night (the OW is also 20 and still lives at home)and I'm 99.99% sure they don't know my H is married. but just my opinion is that even if you see the OW mom w/your mom and MIL that is still not real "proof." do you anything like emails, phone records, receipts, etc.? if not i would get that first, hire a PI if you can and get pictures. just my thoughts. my prayers to you.

Proof??? This has been going on for 6 months! I have confronted OW...2 priest knows, 1 senior manager in the office knows, WH niece saw them in the car driving, i tailed them once, etc, etc

If WH denies it. I will be so disappointed with him. I think that will be the end of the road for me.

I could not sleep the whole night last night. Thinking about this meeting if there ever will be. Stressing out about breaking plan B. I even had nightmares about WH.

I do feel like backing off from the whole idea of a meeting but if i do that then i will be the coward one to everyone's eyes.

zizzy, I would just move forward with confidence. The ones who have something to be concerned about are the OW and your H. Getting her mother involved here will put inordinate pressure on the affair to end.

And I would disagree with those who say that the only purpose for Plan B is to protect the BS's feelings. That is only ONE of the purposes, the other purpose is to END THE AFFAIR, so zizzy would be crazy to pass up opportunities to end the affair, especially since that is her GOAL. Hang in there, zizzy and hold your chin up!