heroswife

What a wonderful point your story (saga) has come to.

I'm a bit like you, I didn't do everything like the MB book says, because I'd already made a ton of mistakes before I found MB, and sometime the weight of the pain, grief, sadness, shock, do not leave you thinking properly.

I didn't ever fully expose, and I have regrets for not having done so. I also "gave up" sources of information for tracking NC, and found that C did, indeed go on for a considerable amount of time before I found out. With 20/20 hindsite, I would have followed MB principles almost to a letter, and I think things would have progressed much more effeciently.

It's really hard to digest all the information from SAA, and from all the supportive posters here on the forum site, because until you've been there, done that, it sometimes seems what you are urged to do would be counterproductive.

Be that as it may, my W and I, like you and your H, seem to have jumped over the major hurdles, and the work at hand is to not return to thoughts and actions that were Pre A, and to continue to each contribute to a better marriage with energy and enthusiasm.

It warms my heart to see success stories, all aided by this fabulous website.

Have a great trip, and a great marriage.

Still pulling for your successful progress!!

SD

Heroswife,

Don't let WAT fool you when he said </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">.....and on Tuesday you're gonna meet two really cool old farts. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He's cool, but old???? Nah! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Man, I wished I had scheduled a trip to DC. Sounds like a lot of fun. Heroswife, tell your H not to panic meeting WAT and I am sure MM. WAT and I met along with another couple where the H was the BS. We had a great time, and no discussions of A's. Just enjoyed meeting people we had heard about, talked to, and admired.

What your H may not realize, is that he may have messed up, but he has done the right thing and people around here respect that. I do, and I know WAT does, and am sure MM does.

So have fun, and hoist one for me.

It is soooo good to read about these new developments.

God Bless,

JL

Yea, I'm not quite as "cured" as JL - in an aging respect, but we're both old enough to be heroswife's Daddy.

I take JL's proxy as meaning I get his drinks?

WAT

WAT,

You can call me old, but taking my drinks???? Man, where is your sense of fair play? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I hope you all enjoy the get together.

JL

JL - drinks are on me when you visit.

Now, if we can just get OOOO out..........

hw, you have to take all the credit for saving your marriage. All the people did here was to encourage you to be strong as we all knew you were. You were just struggling with your emotions and lacking the strength to do what you knew was right. Having not been at this board for long, it heartens me to know that happy endings do happen, and im sure that others will be inspired by you and YOU will be responsible for saving many more marriages. I have learnt a great deal from you and the others that have posted to you, and i hope that if the worst happens to me, that i can be half as strong as you have been.

It is now less than 3 and a half months to my wedding, and thanks to you and many others here, I feel ready to tackle head on any problems we may face in the future.

Hope you all have a good time today in DC! Id come, except it would involve a 9 hour flight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sending tons of love and endless respect,
KS xxx

KS -

You are getting married! I'm very glad to see that you are doing so well. 3 months away, huh? Good for you. I wish you all the luck in the world.

DC was great. I got to meet WAT. He is absolutely wonderful. I met his SO as well and she was just a wonderful. It totally made my day to put a face with a username. I cried right there in front of them. I cried again later that night when it hit me how powerful that moment was for me.

God brought me to this site and God brought all of you here to help me.

You picked me up when I was so far gone I didn't think I could ever come back. I had days when I wanted to give up and just end it all. I don't know what I would do without you all. I will be thankful for the rest of my life.

I hope people that come here realize how this plan works.

I don't know what else to say. I know I should move to the recovery boards now. I'm not sure what I'm waiting for.

Good to see you HW! So glad you got to meet WAT and had a good time. Yeah, you should move to Recovery..... see you over there!

~ Snow