Thanks guys! I've set up the counseling session. H admitted to me he had a lot of work to do - I corrected him and said "we" have a lot of work to do.

I think one of his main problems is that he doesn't understand how I can still love him after all he has done to me. I told him that was true love - that is what it means to be a family - you love people for who they are and you forgive them their mistakes.