New Outlook,
WS has to come to the house Friday to do some things that I cannot do myself
Such as?

<small>[ April 14, 2004, 02:09 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>

NO,

Listen to Chris, please leave the house. This is what I did. I can tell you from experience don't do it. Why bother doing this to yourself. If I for one second had someone to babysit these kids I watch after school today so WH didn't have to come here while I was here I wouldn't be here. My mom is gone and so is my sister. I have no one else to do it for me today.

Please don't be there on Fri. Leave and go shopping. Leave a short note on what you need done. It will be much easier if you don't see him.

NY

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> WS has to come to the house Friday to do some things that I cannot do myself[/n]
Such as?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi Chris <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> well now ...here it is...insurance was let go on the house...in order to reinstate insurance underground tank has to be dug up...WS is bringing up crew to do that on Friday...

can always count on you to keep me in line <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

and yes I will leave the house on Friday... good plan...

<small>[ April 14, 2004, 02:12 PM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

thefurnitureman will soon be giving his WW the PBL so he will need lots of support too.

Thanks Hopeful I'll keep your email in mind if I have any bad moments. Oh and good luck to all on this post that are in Plan B let's stick together. Just day one here. All we can do is take it one day at a time. Sometimes I think of the movie Jerry Mcguire (sp) and think of the scene where he's breaking up with his soon to be wife and she kick's his butt and says I'm too strong for you Jerry, that's the way I see it if I feel like calling.

<small>[ April 14, 2004, 02:53 PM: Message edited by: The Tinman ]</small>

New Outlook,

Good for you. That is what happened here, and I let down the Plan B for the repairs because there was no school it the railings took days. He said he wouldn't pay for something that he could do himself. So we ended up seeing each other.

And as I sit here crying because he just left and will be back around 7 with son. you can see why this isn't a good idea. Leave the house.


Tinman,

I am here for you buddy. Please email if you feel the need.

NY

Okay, I think we can do this. We will each schedule a day to be tempted to break Plan B. It would be awful if we all wanted to break it on the same day.

So everyone pick your day, Thursday thru next Wednesday. It will work out much better if we stick to the schedule. That way we will have 8 people to support the one person who wants to break Plan B.

Ha...u r funny believer.

I actually followed it today (gasp...swoon...awe). So someone else can screw up today for a change.

christy -

Better pick a day. You have first choice. I'm doing fine in Plan B, but my WH is due to come by again on the 22nd. He comes around about every 10 days. Until then, I will be able to support everyone.

My withdraws aren't that bad yet, I watched a movie tonight did a little yard work but we'll see how I do in the next couple of days <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . In other words I'll let you know what day is mine.

Ha. What would I do without my MB friends. I truly believe God let me find you all....

The fact that we can laugh about it must say something.

The joy of the Lord is my strength! :-)

Just popped in to wish all you guys and gals the best of luck with your planB.
Tinman, I have been following your threads and I recon you are doing a great job, just hang in there and I am sure it will be well worth it when your wife pulls her head out of the fog.

Good luck to you all, you are in my prayers.
cheers
mtheart

Remember this is just another day no worrys K.

Well peeps,

I am picking Weds. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Those are the days that WH comes and gets DS from my Moms. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> You all can have any other day you want. Wed. is a NY day. I am feeling good today considering my crappy evening last night. Last time I had to see WH for the rest of my days I hope. I got lots of points across. He excepted them all without a fight. I told him I will not give my son up for one holiday. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I will go to court as many times as it takes it he would like. He did this to us, not me and I am not losing one precious moment of my son's life for him or her. He didn't fight me. I told him he chose his OW over his DS so he could miss the Holidays with him and be with her DS instead for Christmas and stuff. That is the life he chose. I also told him that our DS would never ever be around OW as long as I am alive.

I am due to have some minor female type surgery, of course I am nervous a little. I spoke with him about this. I told him as my wish I would write it on paper that if something were to happen to me during that time, that woman will not raise my child. My mother will fight until the end. She will not be raising my child, she has no morals and it will not happen. He agreed. So that all put my mind at ease. Now that I am back in the dark, what do you guys want to do? Lets go have a beer and shoot some darts......or see a movie......or have another beer <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> .......or maybe a shot together......or we could do the ouija board and see which one of us is going to screw up at Gate B first. Just kidding of course. Chins up. Eyes to yourselves. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

NY

well, how's today going for you? smoking at all? keeping busy? have you thought about doing any kind of volunteering such as at a soup kitchen, be a big brother, etc.? i've been thinking about this a lot at the suggestion to another poster (sorry, i can't remember who). not sure what to volunteer or where i would best serve. kind of holding off on it for now because my mom is coming up this weekend. i guess i look at it as a way to keep busy, there's always someone worse off then ourselves, and if i truly want to be a giver then i need to start giving (even more than i am already). anyway, just a thought. my nearest family is 5.5 hours away and the one close friend i have near where i live will be moving this summer. prayers to you.

no smoking here. Gave that up in 97 forever. Ummm I have thought about volunteering at the local SPCA. They can always use a bag of dog food and someone to walk their dogs. Of course I have two kids, so volunteering isn't really possible unless I don't have them. Then there is all that running around and cleaning up after them. I might someday though. You keep plugging away at it and someday you will get your answers. Keep busy and enjoy the sun.

NY

Mornin everyone...Ws sent email last last stating he wanted to talk to me tomorrow...was going to busy all day today he stated...I replied I would not be here tomorrow...as for the smoking ...I am here smoking like chimney...cigars <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I replied I would not be here tomorrow...
He now expects at least a simple reply to anything he asks.

Plan B.
No reply at all...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He now expects at least a simple reply to anything he asks.

Plan B.
No reply at all... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">yep..it's all about control on his part...got ya

Still smoking here I'm going to try and quit again here real soon. I don't think I can do any volenteer work I just can't put my heart and soul into it. I'm just going to volenteer for myself right now I know selfish but I have a ton of projects to do anyways. Wash windows clean out the garage, lot's of yard work to do, and tons of job work to do deadlines coming up so my mind will be busy.