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Tinman,

Thanks for checking in with us. Always nice to know we can meet at Gate B and be together. Please have a beer for me. O please join us anytime you would like. Life is but a bowl of cherries.

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Hey, I will catch up with you guys pretty soon. Does Plan B wagon have room for one more broken heart?

I've been to Connel Univ. once, it is a bautiful place. I will never forget about it.

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Hey the more the marrier I always say welcome lostnhurt. One for you HINY.

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yep, its me again! i stayed off these boards for a while since h would give me the hope that he was interested in info on how to rebuild our m, and i know he would know who i was if he got into these boards. looking back now, he usually said that whenever i started thinking about plan b. (i wouldn't tell him the plan but he probably noticed the distance in me!) i made it 6 months on plan a, even though it may not have been the best effort. honestly, there were very few lb's but for the last 3 months we just co-habitated. h was not looking for me to fill any en's (and i was too burned out to try hard!)

how's things going with you?

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I missed my MB plan B friends tonight. Went to dinner with a client/friend. She brought along a friend who is divorcing her husband. So I tell them my sordid tale (over a couple of microbrewed beers...I had a fruit beer, quite good). Then I ask her, why was she kicking her husband to the curb. So then I listen in horror, as she tells me what a great guy her husband is, but how she went away on a business trip, met another man, and even though "nothing happened," she felt an "electricity" she had never felt before, and then realized that her marriage was over, and she could no longer live with this great guy, who she now saw as a nice pal/roomate. In my mind I am screaming "YOU ARE IN A FOG...YOU HAD AN EA...AND YOU ARE ABOUT TO THROW AWAY A MAN, WHO YOU DESCRIBE YOURSELF AS A WONDERFUL MAN, COMMITTED, LOVING, LOYAL....PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPUUUUUUUUKKKEEE!"

Instead, I just pasted on a smile, ate my appetizer, and ordered another drink.

I CAN'T SEEM TO GO ANYWHERE AND ESCAPE ADULTERY!
You know how when you are looking for a car, you start to see that car everywhere on the streets? that is what my life with adultery is like now. FREAKING EVERYWHERE AROUND ME....

<small>[ April 17, 2004, 01:08 AM: Message edited by: ChristyV ]</small>

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Christy what are you doing up so late lol I just got back from the neighbors house. Man I've had a few to many adult bevrages good thing it's only a walk home. Maybe she'll realize her mistake before it's too late.

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Hey tinman...stay with me man. Whatever you do...DO NOT BREAK THE PLAN B...you promised you would not drink too many of the brewskies (you mentioned how it made your think of her). Do you have instant chat?

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No I don't have instant chat but I could real easy. You still up? I'm doing fine with the beers I thought about her but I always do but it's no worse then before. I'm fine trust me I don't want to call her.

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What chat do you have Christy?

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I'm still up. Offered chat if you were tempted. We gotta be strong, help each other, for each others' marriages, etc. After all, we are the Plan B club, and we can't look bad with slip ups like contact with OW, can we. We should be the best Plan B bunch to ever graduate Marriage Builders U. But sounds like you are SOLID AS A ROCK!!! You go wit your bad self! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ April 17, 2004, 01:38 AM: Message edited by: ChristyV ]</small>

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What chat do you have Cristy if you don't mind me asking?

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I have AOL instant messenger AND Yahoo messenger (don't ask me why, because I hardly chat).

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Let me download aol real quick I'll let you know when I'm done.

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Okie Dokie. Anyone else out there need some late night instant chat support?

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Ok I'm good now my name is The TinmanMB.

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Tinman,

I am also on AOL IM as TRACESTAR. How are you doing today? Everything is good on my end. I slept good and feel good. Except for the kids driving me up a wall, but what would I do without them? I can't even imagine.

Christy good to see you are finally on the B here too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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I have AOL too, but I don't know how to use IM. NY, I envy you about sleeping, I just couldn't sleep. I think that the first few days of Plan B will be bad, I nee all your support. I anticioate after MBW, unless miracle happens.

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Let's see plans for today to keep busy, go to bank. Eat breakfast clean out garage watch hockey game flush hot water heater. I think that should keep me busy for the day. Remember there is no such thing as a phone.

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lostnhurt. hang in there. i think it will get better. i didn't sleep very well either but i feel in a bit cheerier today.

sorry i missed you guys on aol last night. i am tmichfan if anyone wants to add me to the list. i decided to get off here last night since there was a storm blowing in here. and i was trying to get my s to go to sleep. anyone w/ add child have any luck with sleep habits? he can usually outlast me and my apartment shows it this morning! (toys are everywhere)

so, my plan for the day (and i should include windows! but probably won't - i'll get to them tomorrow.)
clean up toys.
unpack the rest of our clothes.
vaccuum.
dishes.
change the kitty litter. (should have done that 2 days ago, and she keeps telling me this!)
balance my checkbook. (this is done now and surprise, i balanced to the penny and haven't been able to do that all week- go figure!)
go to the park w/s
return a purchase from last week's shopping.
buy a plant.

anyone have a suggestion on a plant? i was going to get a lucky bamboo, but i don't know if that would just remind me of my lost love instead of giving me hope for the future. but the other thing is that lately i keep overspending my budget and wait and let h bail me out. so, this is something that i want to work on and change, (and hopefully i can get into some sort of order before h finds out, as he would step in and fix it again.) but i have a typical apartment w/beige berber carpat and off white walls and could really enjoy having a plant to brighten up the place. i was going to get some paintings for the wall also, but for now, i am going to print out some inspirational sayings and hang them around my desk and living room. when i can afford a painting easier, then i will get one.

so, now i keep on rambling and should be working on my list. wow, i really didn't sleep that good, but i feel i have renewed energy today. i will check back in later and turn the aim on also. take care everyone and hope everyone is having great weather too! (it's 65° here and should get into the 70's later - yesterday it was 85°)

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Last night I went to a play with a girlfriend and then on to a club afterwards...my cousin sings there the occasional friday night so I had a blast singing backup with her...that keeps me out of trouble...I see so many married men trying to pick up women it makes me want to puke...I wonder why there wives do not know as these guys seem to be regulars ....I wonder what Ws's tell their W's where they are all the time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I think thus goes my WS for a year and a half <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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