RR Hi and thanks for all of that. I gots to tell ya I am so confused right now dont know which way is up.

US3 can you email me at Tracestar@zoom-dsl.com, don't have yours changed providers.

HINY

Hope everyone has a great weekend I won't be on the boards till Sunday, I'm going out for the weekend and take some me time. So I'll check in Sunday to make sure everyone is ok.

i'm going for the weekend too, not doing anything exciting but just don't have computer access outside work.

prayers to all.

Well folks I pulled a HINY yesterday...I knew better but when your emotions hit ya there is no reasoning with yourself...yesterday was my mother's 82nd Birthday...I was trying to get some things done here at the house and I emailed WS for instructions on how to open pool...he of course insisted on doing it himself and coming up to talk ...I know I should of said no...so he took granddaughters out yesterday morning for their usual treats and visit to dollar store...my granddaughters had made gifts for my mom to take over to her so I dropped down to pick them up on my way over to the city to pick up a gift for my MOM...as I was heading in one direction...WS passed me on his Harley with OW on the back...I just flipped out...I crossed bridge..turned around and then went to WS's place...there was the M/C parked outside...I walked in and he meet me in the hall...asked me why I was there and I stated the three of us were going to have it out...he did not stop me from going into his room..there was OW sitting there...I just explained to her what was going on..told her he was talking about returning home and she had a right to know what was going on...she stated he had been distant from her and had not wanted to see her all week...she was of course foul mouthed and swore at me and called me names but heh what did I expect...she left and climbed up embankment to a store and WS jumped on his bike and followed her with me right behind...she would not get on bike with WS and kept walking...WS finally went back to his place and I followed OW and had a talk with her... she stated WS seemed lately to not want anything to do with her..I stated the reason was he was trying to wean off her and then break up with her...I stated the reason I was so up set was because he was playing both of us...she called me today and we talked for quite some time...things she did not know about WS.. she says she is ending it with him but I suspect she will not...anyhoo...I am ok today but I felt fate handed me this opportunity...five minutes either way and I would have not seen them...WS of course is livid with me that I talked to OW...OW called me today...we shared info and she asked me to send emails regarding WS stating he was returning home...I did ... I guess what set me off was WS had granddaughters in the morning..OW out in the afternoon and was planning on spending today with me..UGGHHHH.. what the future holds...only God knows

<small>[ May 23, 2004, 01:29 PM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

Good for you New outlook... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I guess my time will come.

i am so peaceful in my plan B. I am also reaching a point where i do not care anymore if comes home or not. In fact a big part of me do not want him home. I should have done this total darkness from the beginning.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> OW called me today...we shared info and she asked me to send emails regarding WS stating he was returning home...I did ... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The puzzler for me was why did OW call me yesterday...she was very honest with me or so it seemed...she stated she had tried to break off several times with WS but he came crawling back crying to her...I asked her if he had ever talked of Divorce and she stated no...she apologized to me for A... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> she stated she knew he had no intentions of marrying her so am wondering what is up here?...anyone?

<small>[ May 24, 2004, 08:23 AM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

HINY is back <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . NO what are you doing girl? Now don't be going and getting yourself in a heap of trouble.


HINY <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

HINY...welcome back! geez OW just called me again WS had not called her and she stated she wanted us to try to put our marraige back together without her in picture...she seems sincere but who knows..she also apologized again for the A <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

<small>[ May 24, 2004, 09:19 AM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

Remember, she is just as addicted as he is...if she was such an upstanding woman, who was pro- YOUR marriage, would she have gotten involved in the first place??

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Remember, she is just as addicted as he is...if she was such an upstanding woman, who was pro- YOUR marriage, would she have gotten involved in the first place??
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh yeah..I realize that one big time and wonder where this all will lead..I have been very cautious about what I said to her...I have not heard from WS either...supect he is very angry right now but he made his bed..HINY how was the trip hon?

Tinman: R U out there? Was thinking about you this weekend! Hope you are doing well! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well I have been in Plan B for four weeks. It seems like forever. Some days I want him to come home and others I do not. My birthday is on Saturday. I bet he will send me a card. Should I send it back? I have a sonogram on June 10 and prenatal classes start June 29. I doubt he will be out of the fog by then.
He just emailed me his new Cell phone #. I love how he signs everything with Thanks. On Saturday the doctors office called and said they could get WH in. I am dieing to know for what. My mom states crabs. HAA

Durham: Either that, or to get his fogbound HEAD EXAMINED!!!

I think the birth of your baby will make him crack, too bad he is missing all of this now, but, if your darkness now coupled with the healthy birth of your son, ALL WITHOUT YOUR WH, doesn't snap him out of it, well, I am not sure what else will!!!!

Hang in there!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

WS just emailed me so suspicions were correct in regards to them being in contact... stated she has told him I was contacting her and wants it to stop...funny thing is this OW called me twice..not me..I sent this to him

"If she wanted no contact with me why did she call me twice WS...think about it....give me a break here...and please hear me I have no desire to contact her again...she realizes A was wrong and would not have worked out ...end of story"

WS stated what I had done was cruel, heartless, dishonest and just plain crazy...I replied that she knows there will no more contact and sent him the definiton of dishonest...

"Well one thing you can say about me... dishonest I am not.."Dishonest" definition "lack of honesty and integrity"...not honest , not trustworthy...hmmmsound familiar..."

Hi all my fellow Plan B'ers I'm good stayed home from work today got a little hangover this morning so I stayed home and now I'm lazing on the couch. I'm good though had a nice visit with my SIL and BIL. I guess my W called there to talk to her niece and my niece said I was there. I guess when my W talked to her sister she said isn't it wierd with me coming to visit? My SIL said no it's not wierd at all. Then my SIL thought to herself if anyone is wierd it's you but she didn't say it to my W. I thought that was funny. Well back to the couch until my headache goes away.

Hello everyone,

My vacation was nice but too short. I did lots of stuff. Mostly just spent time by myself, which is what I was looking for.

When I came home this morning, my WH came down the stairs with our 3 YO son and he said there she is. I guess DS really missed me. I realized lots things while I was gone. Mostly I realized that my DD walks all over me at 11 and it wasn't going to happen anymore. So when I picked her up from school we had a chat and I laid down the law. And it will stay that way for a while. She has been very disrespectful to me lately. Esp when friends come over, what used to be a joy is now embarrassing. Being told that she has no life and bla bla bla in front of her friends, when she has more than a kid could ask for. God I cant' wait until she gets her menstrual cycle.

Anyway I also decided that I dont' know what I want with WH, so I am going to sit on it longer. I don't think recovery is possible even though he is making small efforts to be here for me now. I just can't seem to forgive all the lying and cheating. He looks so small to me now. I wonder if I will ever see him differently again. Not such a small man.

Well today when I came home things were strange,
having WH here sleeping in my bed. They came down I didnt go up. Then he took a shower upstairs. Pretended like nothing ever happened between us. I noticed lots of things that he had done around her while I was gone. You know the gross things. Like cleaning the dogs pail out and stuff like that.

Anyway before he left he took all of his belongings with him, smelling like a bottle of cologne. Asked me what was up for Thurs. and I said I am having my surgery why? He said well I thought maybe I would come and spend the night here Wed. nite and stay home with Bub on Thurs, take Thurs nite off and help you with him since you won't feel very well. I about fell over. I said that would be lovely thanks. He is actually going to take a night off to help me! She must have dumped him, but I am not sure really what I want right now either, so I will take the help after my surgery and see what happens from there. He had nothing to do with her at all the whole time I was gone. And if they were together he wouldn't offer to stay and help, because he knows that he is not welcome to spend the night as long as he is still in contact with her for any reason. I will wait and see if he wants to talk. If he doesn't than I will bring it up. I would rather have him bring it up though. I will let you all know. Nothing from the Drs. either.

HINY

Drs. report says negative to anything that I would have to live with forever <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . OW just gave me the fungi mungi I guess.

Thanks to all that have supported me, I truly appreciate it.

HINY

HINY: That is AWESOME news!!! Now you have to deal with the disease formerly known as your husband. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I was praying for you, whew - I know you are relieved!

God is good!

HINY I'm glad things are good from the DR.