Morning eveyone ..how was your weekend?...had granddaughters over again for another sleepover..when they mentioned WS this time..I stressed we were having a girl's night of fun and no boys allowed.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> that seemed to do the trick this time...we rented a Barbie movie and ate popcorn in bed..didn't miss WS a bit...have an appt. on Thursday to start legal separation and feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders ..time for me and to get on with my life..WS can continue on his road to wherever it leads...I am not going to worry about him anymore...and not allow him to cause me any more pain..I am finally content with being alone and it is getter better every day...I think Believer has set the example for me...thanks Believer <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ..so what is everyone up to today...know it is a holiday in the states but here in the great white north just another day...

<small>[ May 31, 2004, 09:24 AM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

how you doing tinman? prayers to you.

WW makes first attempt at communication....well, sort of <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Envelope in the mail box, simply contains updated insurance card for my vehicle. No return address. Did I expect more? Not really. Very business like. Wierd. (but, not really....)

And that's it...

wacky...how did she know what mailbox to leave it in? I'm guessing she knew where you were moving.

I read your post today, furnitureman, and I am thinking about you! Hang in there.

MIL has my address. WW still carries my health insurance. It is cheaper for me than to get it through my company. I send her a check for that. I have put my return address there.

Who knows.....

Morning everyone...tomorrow we meet with our lawyers in a four way meeting to discuss legal separation...I have not been in contact with WS at all.. I did receive an email from him asking to meet to discuss what was going to happen with lawyers...I did not respond..suspect he was trying to get info as to what I wanted...I feel I have to take take this action (re: legal separation) at this time to protect my financial future....I realize WS is in the deep throes of a mid life crisis and after much research the only thing one can do is let WS go and hope he finds his way...his anger and blame towards me without taking any responsibilty for his actions are a tell tale sign...my question is do I say anything at all to WS at meeting or just let lawyers do the talking..

Hi all, no I didn't fall off the face of the earth. I've just been busy, had my parent's for the weekend, have a deadline at work that is today, so I worked all day yesterday no computer time for me, then last night went to a friends house to help take apart the front suspension on his jeep, he's putting a 4" lift on it. Anyway's it's the same story everyday so far, I don't hear a peep from my W which is fine with me. Her deadline to get her head out of her butt is Aug. then I'm done. I'm gonna be like the kids in the back seat "are we there yet" except mine is going to be "have you got a lawyer and filed yet" and I will call her everyday come Aug. 11th.

NO I wouldn't say anything to him unless you need to.

Well back to work I have to get these cable's hooked up before the end of the day. I hope everyone is having a good day.

Plan B update of the day.......

Had lunch with best friend today. I stayed with he and his W for 2.5 months after moving out of my house.

I have known him for about 15 years. Introduced him to his W many moons back. (10+ years). She and WW were maid-of-honor in each others weddings, etc. They were "Best Friends." WW has had very little to do with her since the D-Day of A's #2,3.

Anyway, his W has apparently had enough of the situation. She feels strongly that you're either for the A or against it. She and Best F ran into WW and OM3 at a company function. BestF, WW, OM3 and OM2 all work for the same company. (BestF's W, OM1, and I all worked for same company in times past. I am still held in high regard by many there. OM1 was at one time a supervisor, then colleague of me, I have been supervisor of BF's W. Best F, OM1 & 2 have been supervisors of WW at some point. It's a mess..... It's quite incestuous. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> ) Exhibits A-G for Ethan NEVER seeing/dating/being married to someone I work with again.

Anyway, I digress. BeFW ran into OM3 and WW at company function. She made nice talk briefly. BeF turned and walked away from both.

BFW finally decided to send an email to WW to explain how she felt about all of this. Said she loved WW, was her best friend for 10 years, and would not just look the other way about her A(s).

From the way BeF described WW's response: (paraphrased, and second hand, at best) Oh well, I'm happy. So it's OK. My family supports me.

It was good to see how much me and my M mean to my friends. I'm curious as to whether or not I should bring it up to MIL at some point.

I doubt seriously if this has any effect on WW whatsoever.

Ethan

<small>[ June 02, 2004, 03:01 PM: Message edited by: thefurnitureman ]</small>

Funitureman...your story is really crazy to hear. I glad you are still okay <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Tinman...my deadline is end July. I wondering if July is too short. i hope something happens before the deadline so i need not have to decide.

Morning folks...I am off soon to lawyers...please keep me in your prayers today...will respond to to other posts here when I return...

NO, I am praying for you.

Prayer for you NO.

Well I think we have reached the end of the road for me...WS was agrumentative in meeting and the blame game was in full swing big time...even accused me of having a new suit on today which I pointed out I had purchased four years ago..I could not but think as I looked at him across the table what a poor pathetic individual he had become...me dressed up, trying to conduct meyself with dignity while he was sitting there looking scruffy and hadn't had a hair cut in awhile...he even accused me of having a PI follow him...now why would I do that?...so silly.. he is so paranoid about everything ...I made it plain that I wanted no contact and that everything would now be handled by lawyers...he of course do not want to give me much so looks like a big battle ensuing...

NO, please do not look at him. He is not the H you had anymore.

Soon to be the new song for me.


Moving On by Default

To take not give your only way
You used up all I have each day
Whispers of where your head has laid
It's hard to ignore all the things that they say

The last time I give in
The next time I'm leaving
Sharin' trust wore thin
I'm movin' on

Each time you say you'll be home late
I pray to God that you'll behave
I miss the love that you've misplaced

My love not something to be played with

The last time I give in
The next time I'm leaving
Sharin' trust wore thin
I'm movin' on
You pushed me off
You pushed me off your secrets out
Don't pick me up
Don't pick me up
I'll climb out

The last time I give in
The next time I'm leaving
Sharin' trust wore thin
I'm movin' on

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">NO, please do not look at him. He is not the H you had anymore.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">so true my dear..and Tinman I'm with you on this song time to move on...WS left the meeting even before his lawyer did...he got caught in so many lies in that meeting that I suspect he could not face anyone...I on the other hand kept my dignity...so there ya go...

I am at a place where I am ready to move on to better things ahead. Leave the past in the past, and move on.

My priority now is to focus on my healing. I want to get my "heart" well again, so I can move on, to a happier me, and maybe one day, a happy satisfying relationship.

I have realized, other people can be good company, can laugh with me, can make me feel good. The end of marriage I no longer see as the end of the world!

Maybe it will really be the beginning! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I am possessive of our Plan B thread.

Nobody puts the plan B on page 2 (this is to be said with the same inflection/tone of voice as that corny line in Dirty Dancing where Patrick Swayze says "Nobody puts Baby in the corner").

Bumpidy bump.

No...I am NOT drunk. Just punchy.

SO STOP ASKING!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

feeling really blonde right now because it took me awhile to figure out what you meant by being put on page 2 <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> i finally got it. prayers to all here on these forums and that God's will be done, God bless, RR

Thanks as always for the prayer's RR. Well I have a plan this weekend, I was going to go out tonight but work tore me up all week so I just came home and took a nap. Tomorrow I'm going to help my friend finish putting a 4" lift kit on his jeep. I don't know why I call it a jeep it's really just a frame right now LOL. Sunday I will watch the race and clean up the house a little. I don't have that much to do due to my mom being here this past weekend and she is like the cleany genie. I told her she was hired. Right now I think I'm going to watch a movie and have some margarita's why not it's been a long week. Hope everyone else has a good weekend.