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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Does she know of your legal troubles with exOW? She may suspect that something was going on and maybe your own guilt is making you react in ways that is getting her confused right now.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of course she knows. But she just assumes OW is mad because I fired her. She knows that OW has told people I was her boyfriend, etc. But remember, this A started in Dec, 2002. And one of the reasons why is I took advantage of someone wanting to have sex with me. Heck, I forgot what that was like! In 2002 my W and I may have had sex 3-4 times at the most. She is a few years older than me.
She also NEVER wants to have children and I do. Maybe that's why she insists on condoms. She has told me a few times that other forms of birth control are unreliable and that's why she won't use them.
If I wanted to be a jerk I could go stick a pin in all our condoms. Problem is, I have no idea when I'll be using one again! The condoms might melt from summer heat by then and the hole will seal itself up!
LOL!
<small>[ April 16, 2004, 02:25 PM: Message edited by: whiteknight ]</small>
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Catch22 and WK-- The Sex Starved Marriage Perhaps it may help you both! ~Marie
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by whiteknight:
<strong> Wanna know something weird? Anytime I ever said to here, "We haven't had sex in weeks" or months or whatever, her reply was always, "Well, I don't keep track of that." Or "That's not true." Am I supposed to think I am nuts and imagining this? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Your wife and my wife have got to be next of kin!
<small>[ April 29, 2004, 03:09 PM: Message edited by: Catch-22 ]</small>
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Perhaps the saddest part of my wretched story is that my W really doesn’t seem to give a damn. She’s no dummy and must know that I’ve been with L (the OW). But as long as I don’t just out and out humiliate her I don’t think she cares at all. Maybe her past behavior makes her feel like she can’t complain. Maybe she just doesn’t care. I don’t know and what little she will say doesn’t help me understand.
I don’t want to live like this! I want my marriage back.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Perhaps the saddest part of my wretched story is that my W really doesn’t seem to give a damn. She’s no dummy and must know that I’ve been with L (the OW). But as long as I don’t just out and out humiliate her I don’t think she cares at all. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow! I always thought my W had a long-lost twin sister out there! You got her. I mean, my W had to know I had an A. I think she was relieved I wasn't bugging her for sex.
I completely understand where you are coming from. I am going to mention something now that is going to throw some heat on me ---- but every once and awhile I wonder what would happen if I met someone else. I have got to make my M work. I don't want that kind of drama in my life again! Having an A is not a good alternative for anyone.
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Part of your wife's problems might be the condoms. Years and years ago when we used them I found them excuciatingly irritating. I still enjoyed sex but found the irritation from the latex tended to make me lose my lubrication and also that I would be sore after sex and even more prone to yeast infection.
I was unable to continue on the pill after my second child. For some reason the hormaones caused visual disurbances for me.
Has your wife ever considered using a diaphragm. It is much more comfortable than condoms and also more pleasant for you.
Pregnancy is good too. Don't have to worry about a baby if you are already pregnant.
One other thing. You state that maybe you wife does know of your affair. Is it possible that this is why she insists on condoms as she may feel that if you are not manogamous that she may be at risk of an STD.
Mine has had a vasectomy over 14 years ago. Great. But we had completed our family. Not such a good option for you.
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