Hi cyn,

I don't know if I'll be popular with this sentiment but I think that at some point,the WS's fog turns into a way of life for them and then you have to ask yourself,is this the way I want to be treated and live? Yes they may miss us in NC/Plan B but it is usually not enough to make any concrete changes for the marriage.Some do come back but a lot don't.

I am done worrying if WH misses me or thinks about me or cares about me,which he doesn't based on his actions.His opinion does not matter anymore.Part of ME taking my life back is not allowing myself to be caught up in THEIR game anymore.The very rationale that made them(WS) decide to have an A is the same that keeps them strapped to the OP.Remember that the emotional "high" from Adultery that they experience is much more fresh and the chemical high is new.So,the withdrawal from the OP is much stronger,IMO,than it is for a S in a Plan B.

O