I am not getting that involved in their D. I just filled him in on the A. I have only been in Plan B for a week and it is very difficult. I am stronger everyday. I know the only thing that will change his mind is time. It is just so hard to wait. It is hard to do things for the baby on my own.

Sorry. Let me be a little more clear.

I am in close contact with the OW husband.
You should not be in close contact with her husband.

He is filling me in on the details of their just started divorce.
He should not be filling you in on the details of their divorce.

The OW is giving him custody of their 5 year old. She will pay support ect. She is filing for divorce and moving in with her mother.
This is more than you should be discussing about his divorce. He should not be filling you in on the details of his divorce.

Dear Durham,

I see a potential ally for you in OW's husband. What are OW's husband's feelings about OW having left him? Has he ever resolved the issues around his having been unfaithful? What counseling can you give OW's husband, or suggest for him? Is OW's husband happy with the arrangements for his 5 year old daughter?

Do you have an attorney? What does your attorney say about contacting OW? Have you contacted OW?

What sense of responsibility does H have for OW, in addition to fog talk? What are H's ideas for the 5 year old daughter of OW? Does he want custody? How difficult would it be to switch custody from the father to OW?

I see a good reason for you to get positively involved with OW's husband. He was unfaithful, and has not recolved the issues in his marriage. What websites or other help have you suggested to OW's husband for saving their marriage. It seems to me, that if OW's husband can save his marriage, then your marriage is saved.

Is OW pregant? Who is the father?

Your husband may be in a supportive realtionship with OW, to help her get through her divorce. Sometimes the person that helps through a divorce, is not the peson for a sustained relationship.

Does H know you are taking Zoloft, and the risks of Zoloft for the fetus?

Blessings

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I see a good reason for you to get positively involved with OW's husband.
And the best reason for NOT getting involved is to prevent an affair.

I have no desire to be with anyone. I am happy by myself and getting through this pregnancy. Thanks for the constructive critizism about finding out details about their divorce.

My only concern right now is moving forward. I don't even really want to be with him. He is not the person I once new. The only reason I would want to try is for my son.

I can't imagine how I will arrange delivery, visitation, ect. I am at a loss.