No, don't call her. I don't think that you said anything bad at all. Stay dark and let her wonder. You are right, she needed to get her Tinman fix and she caught you when you were not ready to see her and she violated your Plan B letter. You were doing good in Plan B. Let her suffer and wonder what you are up to. Coming over is just one way of relieving her guilt and then she LBts you and then you think that you need to apologize to her. No!

My H said something to me this morning that made me think about some things that I do. He hasn't had contact with OW and the other day he presented me with a beautiful diamond ring saying that I deserve this ring because I have been a good wife to him and if it weren't for me holding together this marriage by being patient and understand, we would probably be apart by now. While it felt good to hear those words, I also feel that I need to talk about the A and what led up to it in order to heal our M and also myself. He doesn't like that and every time I bring up the subject, he starts screaming and yelling at me for bringing 'IT' up once again and then I end up in tears and later on I often apologize to him. When I read your post, it made me think of myself. I should not apologize to him and neither should you. I think it is perfectly okay to want to talk about those things because we need to know - not necessarily the gory details of the A, but what it is that was missing from the marriage and how things can be improved.

So, don't you apologize for anything. I'm gonna try to follow my own advice as well. Take your mind off this stuff and maybe go out with a friend tonight. It's Cinco de Mayo! My H is going to Hooters tonight with his buddies. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

One of my girlfriends called me and asked if I wanted to join her for a cocktail. I wasn't going to, but what the heck. I'm gonna put on a sexy dress tonight, feel good and have fun with my girlfriends. I'm not going to sit and home and wait for him to get back from Hooters.

Kati


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by The Tinman:
<strong> Kati that's funny you mention the guilty thing because my wife admits that she feel guilty about what has happened. I was doing some thinking while I was working, it would have been just as easy to mail the information she wanted me to look at, leave it in our mailbox when she came and picked up her mail, or even send me a link over email. I think you guys are right she wanted a Tinman fix, well she should be good for the next three weeks I guess. I was wondering if I should call her and say I'm sorry for some of the things I said last night? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

One other thing I forgot to add about last night. I told my W that everytime I talk to you all I do is push you away, Then you probobly go running to OM and tell him what a SOB I am. She said she doesn't tell him anything we talk about, now do I believe this or not. I mean with her coming to talk to me wouldn't he wonder what we talked about? Can you see the trust being built in their relationship hehehe.