I lost 35 lbs. in 5 weeks. And that was prior to d-day which was Christmas time (25 Dec)

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Yes, I remember the infidelity diet. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I have always been quite fit and trim, but lost about 5kg after DDay (which was near Easter 2003). This put me at the lowest weight I had been since the age of 14. I simply couldn't eat. I recall making myself some dinner one evening and realising that the dishes in the sink had been there since breakfast two days earlier. I hadn't eaten inbetween.

But now ... it is more 14 months since DDay. I have been in Plan B for 12 months now. My eating patterns were normal about 3 months after DDay; I have gained a bit of weight back recently (I moved countries, and still haven't got back into my usual exercise programme!). I am still thinner than I was on DDay.

The bottom line is that this kind of experience is so profound that it will affect you to the core of your being. I felt physically ill for several weeks after DDay and that coupled with an inability to think straight made it very difficult to eat.

For those who have a tendency towards eating disorders, the stress of an affair can certainly trigger it.

For those of who have always wanted to lose a few pounds of weight, consider this part of the infidelity cloud's silver lining ..... however, given the choice, I would rather not lose weight by the infidelity diet method again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I joined Weight Watchers two weeks before Dday (9/03) because WH and I wanted to get pregnant in 9/04 (oops, guess he forgot to tell me he was having an affair). I have lost 82 lbs so far and have 12 more to go.

I was devestated when I found out about the A, but somehow I managed to put my strength into exercising and eating well. I knew that losing weight would put me in a better place for either of the possible outcomes of the A: 1) recovery and getting to have a baby or 2) divorce and finding someone new.

I have had a number of weeks where I lost five or six lbs a week from not eating. The pain of being hungry was conforting and would dull out the pain in my heart. Not eating felt like the only thing that I could control at times. Since going to Plan B and WH moving out, I haven't had moments like that anymore (which is good because it was scary).

Now in Plan B I have a lot of time for myself so I can have fun trying new foods, measuring out my portions, and burning up the miles on the tredmill.

I feel better about my body and what lies ahead. Thank goodness I found the strength to keep losing and not just eat myself into a coma (probably literally).

My WH had never seen me at anything less than my starting weight. He says I look good and he is proud of me. Unfortunately, it didn't do anything for him ending the A. I always thought he was a "chubby chaser," but OW is a fitness instructor and is really thin. H thinks I lost weight to compete with OW.

One of the other major changes I made in my life was becoming a Christian from an athiest. Now I really feel like a new person on the inside and the outside!

firefly

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