Thanks for the lighthouse thoughts, Believer.

Well, I went to see WH at break time. I was filling out the Rec. Activities rating pages. He just started to chime in with me and we did 3 pages. Our interests are almost identical, as usual. Talked some about his weekend hiking with OW, which ended up being rained out, so they went to the beach in Maine instead. He said he had an excellent time, and that things with OW are "perfect because it isn't anything". What the F@#$ does that mean??? He says he REALLY misses his children, since it's been 4 weeks since he moved out. He also is trying to talk OW into moving back in with her parents, but she won't. She has no money since she quit her job, so whatever. We had agreed already that he cannot afford any type of rent. I hope he'll just come back and give me a chance already!! I told him I've been working very hard on me, and he says he sees that. He'll be around later today after work. PRAY FOR ME NOT TO LB!!!!

I've got serious butterflies in my stomach right now...

WH is planning to come after work today and stay until bedtime for kids. He's been moved out since end of Apri******** is just starting to really miss the kids. He's been saying he feels unwelcome at home, but now I'm starting to feel uncomfortable when he's around. I used to follow him around the yard and help him do stuff just to be near him. I think that it drove him nuts. But I am so darn lonely that I crave his presence when he is here. How can I get MY FIX without driving him away?? I am hearing that he is waffling, and I don't want to screw up Plan A.

We have stopped fighting whenever we are together (HUGE improvement for us), but we feel so funny around each other. If he is around more, how long will that weirdness last??

Please settle down and get ready for his visit. It will be easy for you not to LB if you keep in mind that you can come here, and give us your true feelings.

I just had a bout with my WH, and just agreed with him, and sympathized with him. All the time, I kept thinking, I will be on MB soon, I will be on MB soon.

OK, is anyone there that I can LB to???

WH just left after a brief visit here at home with 2 out of 3 kids (middle kid is with my parents for a week). I cooked him a yummy dinner, we played a Harry Potter game, kids into tub, then bed. WH couldn't wait to get out (he lives with OW at a sleazy motel).

I did NOT bring up our R, he did...he blames the A on our crappy M, but then doesn't want to admit that the A is causing pain and damage itself. "I don't want to hurt you..." I don't get it. He sees nothing wrong with being adulterous. He just complained and complained about how awfu***** controlling I am, and he knows what our M is, and doesn't want to come back to that. He sees no end to his A right now. Plan A is crumbling. I am pissed.

I have been Plan A (stands for a$$kissing) and learning MB principles but maybe he's too much of a jerk to bother with... he wants to cake-eat, and it's really getting on my nerves. How many times can my 7 year-old hear "no" from him when he wants him to come home?? It kills me inside. I think I'll have to set a deadline for Plan A, like the end of school year. All of this enabling is exhausting, and for what? To hear him say how much fun he's having now?? He doesn't want to give up 20 years...he doesn't see the potential for healing...

This feels so good to vent to you all... I was very calm and validating to him, while inside I wanted to scream!