I've just posted this on Lisa103's thread. Quick update, I've been going for job interviews.

This is what I said to Lisa and I'd like your opinions - from BS and WS. Should I be able to do this now or should I not take this job (assuming I get it) because of the travel? How would you feel in the same sitch?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I have my cellphone sitting beside me because I'm expecting a reply soon about the interview I went to. I am hoping for a positive reply because the interview went really well and I like the office and the guy who would be my boss.

There is one problem with the job - it involves travelling out of town every month or so. The guy takes his PA with him when he goes to out of town seminars. I asked H what he thought about that and I KNOW he's not happy about it but he said "I'll just have to trust you." Isn't it terrible, 3 years ago he would have been thrilled for me and neither of us would have given it a second thought.

I must say the idea of travelling overnight does bother me - but I can trust myself so it shouldn't be a problem. If the boss turns out to be a sleaze who comes on to the PA when they're on these trips, I would leave the job immediately. But I got the distinct impression at the interview that it was purely business. I NEVER would have even thought about things like this before the A.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Jenny

<small>[ May 31, 2004, 10:41 PM: Message edited by: KiwiJ ]</small>

wow, yeah Jen that a tricky one. I guess all you can do is reasure hubby that all is okay, let him know that you will be contactable any time day or night, tell him you will keep up regular contact with him whilst you are away etc.
Thats all I can suggest.Other than if he is very uncomfortable about it......don't take the job.

Good luck
mt

Thanks MT, that's just what I thought.

A big plus with the travel though is that they regularly hold "team building" seminars where husbands and wives are invited (overseas)and H was very excited about that side of it.

I need to think about this some more. The job was perfect - just what I've been looking for.

Jenny

Darn, I had to edit that because the place they go could easily identify the company. Suffice it to say it's somewhere REALLY nice.

<small>[ May 31, 2004, 10:45 PM: Message edited by: KiwiJ ]</small>

I can only think of one wonderful overseas place ya could be comin <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'll make some pumpkin soup <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

MT, did you manage to get a quick look before I edited?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Jenny

Cello, yes H will be the deciding factor.

People say you lose something - OMG is that true. To even have to worry about something like this now just makes me want to weep with shame. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Jenny

woohoo <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Its an awful thing, but it shows how very remorseful you are Jen,some ws would not even give their bs a second thought on an issue like this.
Your hubbys a lucky man.

mt

What's Hubby going to be doing at home?

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cwmac

Actually despite all of the recovery that you and my wife have gone through I'm sure I'd still have my moments of anxiety. Is there anyway H can go with you? Even occassionally?

cwmac

Of course this is all still academic because I don't know if I've got the job or not but the definite feeling I'm getting from you guys is "worry". I really needed to know that because H has been pretending it's not a big issue and I have a feeling it is.

H's big worry (I'm assuming - and I shouldn't do that) is that OM will be on "business trips" at the same time.

Aha, CW, yes what will H be doing? The boss did say that they invited spouses as often as possible. I told H I could smuggle him into my room if he wasn't invited. Which I seriously would if he didn't have his own business and needs to be there. What the hey, it is his business and I'm sure they could do without him sometimes.

Jenny

How far away would you travel? Just within NZ?

cwmac

Yes, only within NZ but would definitely be overnight.

The boss said if it was overseas they always invited spouses.

I have just heard from the Recruitment Agency (it's only 5.00pm here) and he still hasn't made a decision. I will hear by tomorrow afternoon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

BTW CWMac, I asked this before but it got lost in the chaos of the first "notorious" thread, how do you know so much about "down under".

Jenny

Like KY said "I'm a librarian." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

cwmac

Oh ha ha very funny <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Isn't it time "Tempted Women" got put back on the shelf. Or taken back to the REAL library - it must be seriously overdue.

Seriously. I wanna know. I'll stamp and kick my heels on the floor.

(Which wouldn't be very dignified behaviour from a 49 year old woman).

Jenny

<small>[ June 01, 2004, 12:43 AM: Message edited by: KiwiJ ]</small>

KiwiJ,
You're giving me way too much credit. All I knew about was ANZAC day. Although it has become a more general holiday like our Veteran's Day (originally Armistice Day), it was originally created to thank the veterans from WWI (especially those who lost their lives at Golipoli.

Let's see what else do I know. When wife and I returned from our honeymoon in Tahiti, the biggest group of drunks on the plane were the Kiwis. They made even the Aussies look calm and sedate. LOL. Just kidding

Major city: Wellington??. Can't tell you if it's on North or South Island. I'd guess the northern tip of Southern???

I know it's very difficult for us "foreigners" to come live long term. Typically only possible if you are a professional ie doctor.

That's it. My NZ brain compartment is empty. You can fill in my major blanks.

Now my brain hurts. Need sleep.

cwmac

<small>[ June 01, 2004, 12:52 AM: Message edited by: cwmac ]</small>

Definitely needed the edit to add the parenthetical.

cwmac

Well, considering I told you about ANZAC day, that's not very impressive.

Major city, AUCKLAND, where I'm from. Beautiful city, beautiful harbour, wonderful food. Capital city, Wellington, where all the politicans hang out.

Two islands, (well three if you count the little one on the end), skiing on both. The south of the South Island gets REAL snow, the central North Island has snow in winter on the mountains and is a very popular ski resort with Aucklanders because it only takes 5 hours by car.

And yes, the Kiwis would have been the loudest drunks - but only because our beer and wine are so good <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Have I linked the website for you. I have put it on here loads of times. But here goes again.

www.newzealand.com/travel/

Jenny

BTW, I saw your post to Lisa103 concerning Mrs X. Since it sounds as though you e-mail her, please remember to say hello for me.

Last time I posted with her she was concerned that her BH was stuffing all of the feelings of anger down in side. Hope he has learne dto open up a bit.

cwmac

I beg to differ. Yes you posted about ANZAC day but I already knew it's primary significance.

I read a bit of history once in awhile so I've read about WWI and the disaster called, Golipoli. Nearly ruined a young poltician's career, Winston Churchill

cwmac