Dear JL & Pep,

Thanks for your time and posts to me last night.

I need to have a couple days off the pc and try to work through some things.

Pep you said:

Pity pot is full..... now do something else.

To struggle with your own feelings over and over is rather self-absorbed and continues the downward spiral of woe is me.....

I need to stop posting my feelings here now.

JL you said:

You are probably in your mid-40's. Given the current life expectancy you will be married another 40 years or so. This period is only a small blip in 60 years isn't it? It is an important one, it is a learning experience for YOU and Mr. BV( you can tell I like that as well.)

I am 41. I will move on and try my best to make Mr BV happy and to discover the new mould that it can be.

Kas <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

BV,

What is wrong? I don't like seeing you signing off with a <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> . It will never do YOUNG LADY. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> You are ONLY 41, Oh good grief. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Girl you have so much ahead of you, don't let this trip you up OK?

Come back when you are ready and we'll talk some more. You know you are welcome here, and on any thread. I don't think you appreciate you are helping other people here, but you are. Especially, those that just read here but don't post.

Hang in there BV and post when you are ready.

God Bless,

JL

"I need to stop posting my feelings here now. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> "

Know how this happends sometimes.... you have to sit on the potty too long and the seat makes deep red marks on your thighs from the pressure of the plastic seat on your legs..... and you get "ring around the hiney"

get off the pot....

Instead of posting your ever so comforting feelings of self-absorbed hurt.... why not get off the pot you are currently ~stuck~ to .....

and post a PLAN .... some do-able activities that require your attention long enough to change your focus away from <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> ....... or do you like the attention <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> brings ????

So far, you seem to enjoy the view from the pot too much to want to change your seat. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

As Mr. E (one of my new favorite posters) says.... IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE.

Are you still drinkin'? If ya are, I think the booze is depressing ya.... and ya need to quite altogether.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ July 09, 2004, 10:10 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

BV - pep is right. You need to move forward. Get rid of the booze. You can do this. Just like in the 12 step program. Realize that there is a power greater than you that can change you.