I feel a surge in my love bank when Mr. Pep does this:

Brings me coffee in bed every morning.
Holds my hand in public without being asked.
Calls me to ask "Is there anything I can do for you today?"
Fills my gas tank before it's empty.
Calls my Dad to check in on him.
Buys me my favorite candy.
Listens to me when I am scared.

....

I could go on and on...

What does YOUR spouse do to make love bank deposits?

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> (one happy woman)

Not have an affair. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Hmmmmm...

*When he talks to me about how he feels about something.
*When he confides in me a secret.
*When he uses a pet name that we share between us.
*When he touches me tenderly.
*When he takes care of me - he spend HOURS on the phone with computer techs yesterday over my broken computer.
*When he holds me in bed.
*When he sends me special emails.

Great thread, Pep!

These are just my imaginations now and hope one day I will have them:

He calls me just because he thinks about me
Going to a trip or even a date together
comes home on time and give me a hug
cuddle me at night
read books or share thoughts together
be GOD's lamb, know GOD, accept GOD

the list could be longer

Ooo, oooo, Can I play?

When she:
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• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Looks to me for guidance in front of the kids</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Buys me little gifts (it's not the gift, but that she's thinking about me)</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Irons my shirts (I hate doing this but I love ironed shirts!)</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Compliments me on a job well done after she knows I've worked hard on something</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wears something she knows that I think is sexy (she has these neat little boy shorts from VS...)</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And of course, last but not least, rocks my world under the covers!</font></li>

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Low

These are good things to remember.

* When H makes my coffee before he leaves for work, even though he doesn't drink coffee.

* When H cuddles up close to my cold a@@ to warm it up when we are camping - that thing is like ice!

* When H gets up first thing in the morning when we camp to boil the water for my coffee - before making hot cocoa for the boys, even!

* When H sends me an IM in the middle of the day, or calls me, just because he is thinking of me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I REALLY like that one!

* When H holds me when I cry, and I feel safe and protected and cared for, and loved.

* When H knows my neck or back aches, and gets out the ortho-ease and rubs me down for a long time.

Hm, I could go on and on, too! This is so important to remember. Sometimes I get to the point where all I can think about H is how he did so much stuff wrong. Thanks for the perspective, Pep.

SS

Originally posted by LowOrbit:
Ooo, oooo, Can I play?


I am delighted by your response .... you and Mr. Pep ~are~ twins separated at birth! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Pep

♥ He keeps my car clean and washed.
♥ He sits on the sofa with my feet in his lap and rubs my feet!
♥ He does the grocery shopping because he knows I hate to.
♥ He laughs at my silly jokes and my sense of humor.
♥ He tells me with a twinkle in his eye that I look good...
♥ He calls every day before he leaves work to see if I need anything.

When he bring me my vitamins in bed every night.
When he brings me coffee on the weekend.
When he calls me his little redhaired girl.
When he chases me down the hallway picks me up
ans tosses me on the bed and then jumps on me
covering me with kisses.
When he goes out of the way to help a family
member of mine.
When he's willing to occasionally indulge my
designer handbag fetish
When he tolerates my rerun after rerun of "Sex
and the City".
When he suggests that we invite my parents along
with us on day trips.

Low, thanks so much for the male perspective on this thread. Some of yours got me thinking about some of the things my H might get Love Deposits from me for - like looking to him for guidance in front of the kids (I'm kind-of a know-it-all), and ironing. I wonder if he notices the little gifts, too. I'm not sure about that one.

Thank you so much!!!!

SS

I'm taking notes. But if I had to reduce all of the replies to one word it would be Protection. That seems to be the theme. Perhaps I need to take more notes.

WOE.....

also don't overlook

care
concern
humor
affection
taking time

...... being there

Pep, I will continue my note taking. One thing I would speculate that would be big with women is romance (or is that my need?). Nice upbeat thread.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by walkingoneggs:
<strong> Pep, I will continue my note taking. One thing I would speculate that would be big with women is romance (or is that my need?). Nice upbeat thread. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Romance is in the eye of the beholder.

Take note... it's not the BIG gesture .... it's the little ones .... the daily care and concern. Little notes.


The non-sexual touch (except for Low who is a man ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

Being spontaneous is one of my LB deposits.

Relaxing together .

Pep...

This is not fair...you guys are bumming me out.

Do any of you know of a singles MB site?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by weaver:
<strong> This is not fair...you guys are bumming me out.

Do any of you know of a singles MB site? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">MY happiness bums you out?

Please explain.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> J/K

RU having a bad day? ... sorry.

Would you like a lemondrop martini?

Pep

I think a lemondrop marini might be just the ticket...too bad I had a Lexapro cocktail this morning. Dang maybe I should have had two!

Actually I am quite happy to read HAPPY on here tonight. This board has been WAY too depressing lately.

Thank you...

Someday I will be joining in on this though!!!
And thats my final answer.

* When H brings me coffee in bed.
* When he walks the dog before going to work.
* When he rubs my feet.
* When he calls to see if I need anything on his way home.
* When he calls to just say hi!
* When he remembers something I had to do that day and asks me about it.
* When he whispers my name when we make love.
* When he keeps my van clean for me.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Good thread...made me happy thinking about LBDs!

and don't forget...
♥ when he takes out the trash!

Suz <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

-when he senses that I am cold and brings me a blanket and tucks it around my feet.

- when he brings me a cup of tea when I am in the bath.

- when he comes up behind me when I am doing dishes and embraces me

-when he gets up at 5am to catch a bus to come all this way to see me

-when he works at a backbreaking job to provide for me (esp. when he is in pain) and doesn't complain

-when he talks to me about his feelings