Jelly....You know what the good thing is about all this..I'm ready to leave now...I'm tired of all the BS and I'm ready to move on. About OM approaching me, my bet is that he won't. He doesn't care enough to, believe me. He made one comment to me after hearing about me leaving. He said that he had seen my new manager and I made the comment, "Oh my God, did you tell him that he is going to have his hands full"? He replied, "I only told him good things about you." And that was that.

and Jelly...the awesome thing is that I DON'T CARE if OM says anything to me now...Let me tell you girlfriend, that is progress!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Yeah, I'm so glad to hear you don't care.

I've only had to face a couple of people who know about my A, and it was tough, and that was just a couple of times.

I can't imagine daily facing people and them discussing it, or me thinking they are.

Your stronger than I, Lisa.

JElly

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Lisa103:
<strong> I just found out from another co-worker/friend of mine that the majority of the people here still think that I'm involved with OM. Two more days, I am ready!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What will they find to talk about after I leave?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Onward and upward, ey Lisa! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

From here forward try this....

Think of your reputation as a separate reflection you see in the mirror.

Groom your reputation in your new workplace. Make it shiney and above reproach. Take care of your reputation .... keep the pimples away, don't get it dirty.

Your reputation can become something you hold up with pride.

Move along little one .... you get what is called......

"a do-over".

COOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Pep

((((PEP))))

Where have you been hiding?????????

need your prayers and humor today. Very emotional today talking to clients that I've gotten to know that have found out by others here that I'm leaving. If I had had my way, no one would have known about it except for just those who had to. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Dear Lisa,

Hi.

It must be difficult for you dealing with clients that now know you are going and will miss you.

Please hang on and be strong. You have made the best choice in what you are doing.

You know that there are always people here who will bring a smile to your face, especially when you are least expecting it (I have found that in some of the different posts to me!)

You have been an encouragement to me.

Thanks for being there.

Take care.

When did you say your birthday was? I know someone said their birthday was soon. Hope I haven't missed it if it was yours. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Kas <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

oooooh Lisa's having a b-day, when, tell us when. Hold tight honey, you only have 1 more day..... Then on to your new life, the one that is not tainted by the OM. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

BV, how are you this morning???? Fog free??? Just checking?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

How about NCW's post to you last night, I was screaming BV WAKE UP!!!!! Could you hear me. I was touched and moved.

Take care Lisa, I loved your prayer last night. What a sweety you are. {hug}
KY

Kas and Jelly...thanks so much for the encouragement. My b-day isn't until November so let's not rush things girls!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Lisa,
Let your mantra be:

ONE MORE DAY, One More Day, one more day......... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

We already know what tomorrow's will be (spell it out with me....) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I really do believe that
its all the little things that you'll miss that seem to hurt the most.
Aspects that you just never really focus on, UNTIL they are gone.
They don't seem to mean that much in the Day to day, and yet when faced with actually losing them....BAMM........they suddenly Reveal their True significance to us.

Next: It was Nice to see your prayer request for NCW/RAP.
I consider it a very compassionate gesture on your part. Very inspirational. Nice going! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I myself only recently really got caught up on their situation, but they sure need all the support they can get.
Just thought it was very admirable of you to reach out to them, even as your own emotions have to be soooo on edge.
Indeed, your having to deal with your own sense of loss, (not to mention the natural trepidation of starting in a New position).
After a 17 year bubble of comfort, I'm sure that anxiety is High. Just remember that those nerves are natural. (small comfort for sure)

In any case, I was surprised to read that most others in your office already KNEW about the A.
Did YOU always know they knew?
Might I ask how long they have all known?
And how did this news become common knowledge? From your side or OM?

Lastly, how did this A being known (with BOTH of you still being there), effect the dynamics in the workplace?
Was there ever any problems at work (for either of you) because of the relationship (other then You just being uncomfortable)?
I'm sure you've been over this before but that's me, playing catch up.

Sorry but every time you post, questions from it just pop into my mind?
Hope they (and me) are not bothering you.

Just hang on, its almost over. (as Lisa sighs: "Thank Gosh"!)

till next time

top rope...you do not bother me all. You have been such a source of strength for me and I so appreciate you taking your time to encourage me here. As far as the office knowing about the A. A few months back I was very close to having a nervous breakdown and I'm sure that people here could tell even though I tried to wear my Mask to work everyday. I confided in two women here months back and I guess that out of concern it spread from there.

After news got out in the office, I had two other male co-workers say and do things that were very inappropriate. I guess I earned that reputation though. I didn't go to my manager with it because of all that he had been through with me anyway. My operations manager who is a female and that I've been friends with since I started here noticed that I was emailing OM in the beginning. She warned me to quit and I didn't listen so she had all my deleted emails retrieved and gave them to my branch manager.

I found out that she had done this before my manager approached me so I approached him first. He is the most kind, compassionate man and told me that what I did was my business but that it couldn't go on in the office. I was so humiliated and ashamed because the emails really had some trashy things in them from me and OM. I still am so ashamed of my actions back then. It was as if I was abducted by some alien <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

People have told me here that everyone has done things that they are ashamed of and no one would ever guess some of what they've been through. Unfortunately, mine has been broadcasted over this office. My dirty laundry has been out there for everyone to talk about.

Lisa,

Thanks for responding.

My apologies if dredging back into any of that history, has in any way brought you down today. Sometimes my curiosity just gets the best of me, and I don't think all these things through. I should have considered your feelings first.
Please Forgive me.

Just know that if I have any more questions for you, I will save them Until you are at least out of that place. I'm MORE then sure its hard enough as it is. (I can wait a day right?)

However, I will state that seeing what the situation really is in your current position, that IMO you NEED to get this Fresh Start. Bottom line.
Just to be able to let go of much of this guilt, shame and gossip will raise your spirits higher then they've been in ages.
So to this place I say :"Its been nice, but time to move on".

Since You are choosing to leave you agree that this environment just isn't healthy for you at all, personally OR professionally.
So great move to first recognize that fact and then DO something to change it.
Many here do the first part (identify problem) but for whatever reasons, just Never take the actions they know are necessary.

You are strong (or maybe just wore out) but in any case you've done what needs to be done.........so congratulate yourself.
Your doing it.
Your fixing your life (all aspects). Keep it UP!

top rope....you're questions do not bother me so there is no reason to ask for forgiveness here.
Between OM and these two other men that I have had problems with, I am ready to go somewhere where I'm not reminded of it every day. But your questions do not bother me. Feel free to ask away.

Lisa,

OOOOO, LISA:

Guess WHAT?

It's TGIF Baby! OH, YEA! (Like I had to remind you...right??)

So where is the party at after work? WOO HOO! We're all invited Right? Just name the place and time.

Or are you just so Exhausted by all this, that your just going home to collapse from the Relief of it all being Finally OVER?

In that case just go home, put on some soft music, light some candles, pour a glass of wine, run a nice warm relaxing bath........and let calgone "Take YOU Away"!

(If Hubby is nice he could throw in a nice massage afterwards) One can always hope.

Oh yea, just pick something up on the way home to eat. NO Chores tonight.

One last thing...make sure you walk out of that place with your Head Held High!
Let them keep that memory of you to remind them of your time there.

In addition You can now finally EXHALE!
Feel good girl, YOU made it! Congrates!
This is a GOOD day!

Wishing you only success on the next stage of your journey. YEES!

P.S.
I threw in a bio line at the end.......so I'm not such the mystery man.

last day here <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> ....OM bought doughnuts for the office this morning. He emailed me which hasn't happened in forever unless it's been business related, asking me if I got a doughnut. I told him yes, thanks. He responded with "I hope you like it at XXXXX, you will be missed here".

very generic. I didn't even expect that much.

Please keep me in your thoughts today. I would have given anything to have just called in today but we have another girl out on vacation and I did not have the heart to do that to them.

very emotional draining day. To start off with H offered no support this morning before leaving for work. He didn't even mention the fact that this was my last day of work there. He didn't call during the day to check on me or anything. I could have used some emotional support from him today <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Very emotional day at work. Didn't physcially see OM all day which was a good thing. He called me interoffice at 4:00 when he was leaving to let me know that he was leaving, because I answer the switchboard and to tell me bye and "we will miss you". Nothing personal, totally generic goodbye. I felt like I left with some grace anyway because I didn't say anymore to him that what I had to say. I said "Thanks" and that was that.

I feel really lost right now and just empty. I guess that's kind of normal. Comfort zone is being challenged big time here. I'm sure that I'll feel better once I start new job.

Dear Lisa,

How are you doing now you have finished work?
Sorry your last day was very emotional.

What is the latest with you?

When do you actually start your new job?

Please keep in touch.

Dear KY4

Are you still there? How are you doing? Been eating much chocolate lately?

What's the latest with you too?

Kas <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

thanks Kas....Last day was very rough and I appreciate your response. I didn't have much luck getting anyone to reply here Friday and I needed it so badly.

I'm so glad that it's over. I'm very nervous about the new job but I'm sure that's normal. I'll be glad once I start and find comfortable there. Thanks so much for your encouragement.

How are things going for you sweetie?

I 2nd you on the chocolate. I could sure use something sweet right now myself!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

top rope.....I appreciate the post some much Friday. H lb'd me big time before work and during the day. No hugs, no phone calls, nothing. That was very disappointing to me.

You would be be proud, I did leave with my head held high. I said no more to om than I had to and the other man who tried to start up something with me, left while I was at the bank, and was gone when I got back. He didn't even say goodbye, kiss my a$$, nothing. Hey, now I remember why I left this place!!!