DipiT, the MB site is about people like all of us trying to save our Ms in the midst of terrible pain. You have worked as hard as anyone I've seen on this site try to save your M, in spite of your dumbA$$ H's intense stupidity. OK, my black hearted, vengeful soul is showing again. I am just sooooo sick of the fogged out WSs. Anywho, the thing is this site is also about recovery, our recovery, and sometimes the recovery of our M. If my M doesn't make it I hope I don't have to leave this site. Look at Redhat. He got "D"ed but how many folks has he helped?

So you better not feel any guilt Girl! And you better not leave because then I won't have anyone to mock my H out with.I do hope the man never reads my posts! CV

I am with you also dipiT. This road sucks and the mojo goes quick. I am not sure what my exact position in our M is at the moment. I think I am the old fall back right now. Gosh that sucks. I would rather be alone than have that title. This thread is funny.

HINY

HINY: I often thought, back when I actually wanted WH to come home, if I could handle all the baloney that comes with that situation. Basically, it is trauma, adjustment, pain and uncertainty no matter which path is chosen.

My heart goes out to you!

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* |>>> +[/code]</blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's got a moat and everything. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

CP: Holy Smoly!!!!! That is freaking IMPRESSIVE!!!!!!!!!!!! SHEEZ!!!!!

Now I really really really really really feel like a special princess!

How cool is that.

Thanks.

I think I feel some MOJO headed back my way after all!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ok, ok...

It wasn't my baby.

But I took a pic of him taking a bath last night! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I challenge you to actually pony up a legit pic of the baby. YOU FREAK!!!

I'm actually putting the finishing touches on a flash photo album w/music.

I need to talk to W about it before I publish it though.

Will probably want pics of baby on a secure server.

I'll let you know! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

How yew doin'?(like joey)

today?

Doing Ok. Actually getting involved with some fun work the next couple of weeks. A lot of client CONTACT is going to happen, and that always makes me happy...much better than being holed up in the office. The social butterfly I am!!

STBXBFLWH canceled our "divorce talk" meeting last night, some lame excuse about schedules. Not sure what the game of the day is now...just deciding to NOT read so much into everything. I personally think he is stalling because the finality of the divorce will mean financial DESTRUCTION for him. He has not paid a DIME toward child support since he left in early March. He pays all of $250 mth for childcare, which is not even a third of what would normally be his child support obligation. Fortunately, I make a decent living and do not really need it, but it is starting to get a little financially tight. So he is stalling, so he doesn't have to PAY. That is my take, anyway.

Anyhoo...how are you today? Besides fort and sport areana construction, what do you do for a livin.

Sorry to hear about your

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I’m doing ok today…

I lead a comprehensive wealth management team that specializes in providing customized solutions to high-net-worth individuals and their families.

My elevator speech.. You like?

Also do some web consultation work.
I’m hungry need to go eat!

Oh yeah, I hate being cooped up in the office!!

I did get it...and laughed out loud. But then again, loud laughter, snorts, almost losing my diet dr. pepper out of my nose, and weird and wacky comments has come to be commonplace at my place of work (just as you would imagine from an ad agency...crazy, zany, creative, arty folks). In fact, I was just having a conversation with some of my employees on how we need to REIGN it in a bit. It's fun though!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I lead a comprehensive wealth management team that specializes in providing customized solutions to high-net-worth individuals and their families.
My elevator speech.. You like? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes I do like. My official elevator speech is "I manage an account service team at a prominent national advertising agency that specializes in recruitment marketing and staffing solutions."

Does yours translate to Financial Planner for rich folks? My WH was a Financial Planner to not so rich folks, and that was when we almost went bankrupt (he was living like he made a 7-figure salary, and we were basically living off of my salary, which, well, doesn't support a 7-figure lifestyle). This lovely time was during the premature birth of my second child, who was 8 weeks early, and did I mention WH was working 7 days a week, 12 hours a day ("that is when the client's need to see you").

Come to think of it, I wonder if WH had an affair then, too. Ahhhhh...Sigh...all the pleasant memories. Just makes me want to GUSH! Or puke. Not sure which.

Come to think of it, is a wonder I did not have an A. Oh wait, aside from that small fact, that I am a MORAL WOMAN and would dump his [censored] before I would do that!!!! Right. That little differentiating factor.

No... I do not sound bitter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Does yours translate to Financial Planner for rich folks? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I dunno? I hope so! Need a new job though… theses mergers are killing me!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">and did I mention WH was working 7 days a week, 12 hours a day ("that is when the client's need to see you"). </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Clients hardly ever want to meet on weekends… Unless you’re entertaining them at the Masters.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Just makes me want to GUSH! Or puke. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">PUKE!

PUKE!

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Robby:
You need to sell a mutual fund, VUL policy, some stock or something. All this ascii art makes me think you have WAY too much time on your hands. JJ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

In all actuality, I am thankful you are being my MB buddy today. Seriously...thank you.

Where the hell is CP?

CV, you little spitfire, are you around??

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">In all actuality, I am thankful you are being my MB buddy today. Seriously...thank you.

Where the hell is CP?

CV, you little spitfire, are you around??
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ok, maybe it wasn't supposed to, but this made me laugh out loud!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Wow, did I miss all the fun here? Robby, your art is really cute. S, I miss you, my sis.

Robby: 'Ey. Am I f*&#ing funny. Do I make yew laugh? What am I, a f*&#ing joke. Am I 'ere to amuse yew?

I was being serious... thanks for shooting the, well, er, umm, you know what with me today.

Lost: I miss you too, girl! Hope you are doing ok! Yes, my thread has morphed into some sort of weird mojo, maybe more like acid, trip. Who'd have thunk it.

Looked over the threads and sounds like we got a little too wild for our friends on MB. I understand how that goes. I was part of that too, so for that, I truly apologize. This board does offer somewhat of an element of anonymity, and with that, I think people, especially hurting people, can tend to want to vent, connect, and let loose in ways that may sometimes get out of hand. Again, I regret if any of my posts were too bawdy, negative, or off color for others on the site.

I have been thinking an awful lot about my usefulness on these particular pages of the site, anyway, and have mentioned it a couple of times. Since I am finally at a place of peace with the death of my marriage, it is bound to make those who are fiercely fighting to keep theirs uncomfortable. In fact, when I was in that spot some short months ago, I remember how negative and embittered the ones who had had enough sounded to me. I wanted to YELL that they needed to suck it up and stick it out for longer. And I guess one can never know what it feels like to WANT to move on at a point until they are there. So again, I apologize if my posts sound negative, or strictly COUNTER to the whole MB ideology.

Wish you all the best of luck, truly.

DipiT-

Please tell me you are not leaving...

You are needed...

More than you know...

This is starting to feel like The Sneetches... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

OK, my little spitfire self is back. Would you pleeeeaaassse stop apologizing. Your posts are no worse than all the whining I've done these pasts months about my H who pretty much dumped OW right off the bat. In spite of my (good fortune?) I seem to suggest every couple of days that maybe he would be better off with OW. Yeh, I'm really good at MB! In fact, on my walk with H tonight I slipped in another comment like that. He was kidding with me. Saying how for a 53 yr. old man he's got a lot of energy, and went into our SF in the middle of the night, working all day, our walk, etc. I, on the other hand, was feeling kind of tired. So what do I say? "Since you have such great stamina maybe you would be better off with the younger OW." I swear, sometimes I think I am trying to get rid of this man. So whenever you think you are being a bad influence, think of me and you'll feel better.

DipiT, no matter what the outcome of our Ms are, the journey is difficult. If we end up staying in our Ms we have years of recovery to look forward to. If it doesn't work out, we are in your shoes, mourning the end of our M and the identity we had. None of it is easy. All I know is you have supported me from the moment we connected with our humor, and you better not go away Girl! I love the silly, funny sh&& on MB, because sometimes reading all of the new posts are soooo sad. I hate As. I've come to really see the evil in them. So we need to laugh too. Hang tough! CV