Ha-ha-ha-ha-haaaaaa, nanny nanny boo boo. I just met Brad Johnson at a Tampa Bay Buccaneer Autograph Signing Party. One of the perks of being an advertising person. Got autographs for my kids. Son will love it. Daughter won't get it, and WH will hear of it. Oh well, tooooooo damn bad. That could of been one of the perks of being married to me. SF as my top EN, and the opportunity to take advantage of the friends in high places, and see the Buccaneers. Booo hooo to yooooo, WH (he is a HUGE Buc fan). Waaaaaaa!

Ok, I'll stop gloating.

Did I mention Brad is HOTTTTTT!!!! But alas, he is married. And, well, I don't go for the whole A thing (who'd of thunk it???).

It was fun! Fun! Fun! Fun!

Told you I would slack.

Ate enough cheese to...well...to have eaten too much cheese if you know what I mean (and dairy is soooooo bad for you).

I see CP and KY and Robby are back at it. I guess that means I have to retire my place as the crazy and wacky thread. Robby only came here because there was nothing going on there. Now he will have more wacky friends to hang out with. And CP, he and KY have some sort of special friendship that I cannot compete with.

I will try to come up with funny stories and crazy antics, but, alas, will probably fall short.

Farewell dear friends. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> sniff sniff <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I see CP and KY and Robby are back at it. I guess that means I have to retire my place as the crazy and wacky thread. Robby only came here because there was nothing going on there. Now he will have more wacky friends to hang out with. And CP, he and KY have some sort of special friendship that I cannot compete with.

I will try to come up with funny stories and crazy antics, but, alas, will probably fall short.

Farewell dear friends. sniff sniff </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ok, so you’re a bucs fan, and a HUGE DRAMA QUEEN!!!

Cut it out silly girl!!

I went to high school with Brad Johnson…

One of the nicest guys I’ve ever met….really.

Too bad he’s married! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

We’re friends, DipiT, remember…

Yes, even though I’m an EVIL, EVIL, EVIL, you get the drift, EVIL FWS! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I’ve got to go to IC in a few minutes…

By the time I get back I hope you don’t have anymore whine to go with all that cheese…
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

this make me think of you...

A small boy is sent to bed by his father.
Five minutes later...."Da-ad...."
"What?"
"I'm thirsty. Can you bring a drink of water?"
"No. You had your chance. Lights out."
Five minutes later:"Da-aaaad....."
"WHAT?"
"I'm THIRSTY. Can I have a drink of water??"
"I told you NO!" If you ask again, I'll have to spank you!!"
Five minutes later......"Daaaa-aaaad....."
"WHAT!"
"When you come in to spank me, can you bring a drink of water?"

Cheddar Head! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ July 14, 2004, 06:21 PM: Message edited by: robby13 ]</small>

Ha-ha-ha, Robby. Don't you worry. Your kid will start these antics soon enough! JUST YOU WAIT!!!!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Hey! I didn't get an invite to your little pitty party! Does this mean you don't love me anymore?! Tell me it was just lost in the mail. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Dear CP: The honor of your plastic wrap fetish attendance is hereby requested at the
Dipi "There's a Tear in My Beer"
Pity & Drama Queen Extravaganza.

Bring your own sob stories, and a short soliloquy.

Robby:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Too bad he’s married!
We’re friends, DipiT, remember…
Yes, even though I’m an EVIL, EVIL, EVIL, you get the drift, EVIL FWS!
I’ve got to go to IC in a few minutes…
By the time I get back I hope you don’t have anymore whine to go with all that cheese…
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am sorry if I said the EEEEEVVVVIIILLLL comment to you and hurt your feelings. We are friends. And if you knew me well, you would know I do not take that term lightly. I am not a very conditional friend, waffling my allegiance to my friends, back and forth, like posts on a stray thread, but remain loyal, steadfast, unwavering. So, know that I am here buddy. Trying to help you be a better man, and save your marriage.

And as far as wine, I too, am on a diet, and some wine would make me drink unnecessary calories, and probably lose all my faculties. I made a 5 lbs loss this week, and I am not about to piss it away. And all the cheese was free, well, because Brad was there, and he burns enough calories on the field to make up for both of us.

And as far as your typo, Whine , well, dude, use your spell check.

I neeeeeeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvver wwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiinnne.

Please don't stop being my friend. PPPPPPPLLLLLLLLUUUUUUHHHHSSSSE?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ July 14, 2004, 06:35 PM: Message edited by: SerendipiT ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am sorry if I said the EEEEEVVVVIIILLLL comment to you and hurt your feelings. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ok, now you're just confusing me with someone else...

I TOLD YOU TO SAY IT WITHOUT SHAME!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So, know that I am here buddy. Trying to help you be a better man, and save your marriage. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thank you again, DipiT! I need the help!

...in between your cheese eating, of course...

Any famous clients today?

DipiT-

I know you are going through a lot right now and I don’t want to stain your thread…

But..

I need to put this down somewhere…

Somewhere someone who may understand will eventually be able to read…

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe she needs to pull back, because it will be in her telling you to go take a hike, that you will take the biggest test. If she pulls back, pushes away, AND you still remain committed, in love, and willing to meet her needs, that is a real testament to your love. You will PROVE that your words meet your actions. If you still love her, when she is telling you she doesn't love you, and you do this over time, maybe that will be the proof that she needs.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I’m frustrated about W going out with work folks (again) tonight. Goes on Mondays (softball) and Thursday (drinking w/o softball premise).

I know, you’ve said –everyone has said, that this is going to suck for a while…

I’m not whining, just need to vent my frustrations…

THIS IS THE SAME WAY SHE ACTED PRE A! THE EXACT SAME!!!

When she now says her feelings were dead for me!

I haven’t felt loved for so long. Too long…

No, I should never have had an A. It was a weak and cowardly decision.

I suppose I should have gotten a D a long time ago…or found a way to revive our M.

Or I should never have gotten M in the first place. I was always afraid of M. Been hurt too many times before. Too much baggage I guess…

I told W this. We started dating around the time the move “Titanic” was out. I’d tell her “that” was the type of love I wanted, needed, longed for. Someone who would jump out of the lifeboat and back onto the sinking ship…for me, for us.

Sounds kind of corny, huh?

Sure, a bunch can be read into what I thought I wanted, I know…

And no, the A did not make me feel loved…

Now we have the greatest son in the world together…

She wasn’t happy before we got pregnant.

You say to watch her “actions.”

What about her actions tonight? What about her actions of going out all the time, drinking, without me, without her wedding ring… Leaving our S.

What do these actions tell you?

damn robby, i came to this thread to get a CHUCKLE!!! i don't post often here but i read the silliness that goes on, Lord knows i need all the humor i can get.

i'm sorry you are feeling so down, i am feeling down too, maybe you read my thread. you are doing better than me though, you are not making stupid decision like me. so my H is out drinking tonight too, also without his wedding ring, but only with one male friend of his. the one he is supposed to start his furniture store with, although i don't think they will really ever be serious about it, they just like to talk. at first i thought H was really serious about this concept but he is not following through with much actions to determine just how to accomplish it.

probably a good thing, starting a big proposition like this ties me into my job even more, although if it actually did good, it could be the thing that allows me to change careers. i figure whatever is meant to be will happen.

not sure if you knew i want to change careers and become a teacher. i had applied to a college back in fall of 2002, the plan was to try to quit in summer of 2003, but i put it on back burner due to finances, but the college still keeps in touch with me in fact the guy in charge sent me a note about a month ago to invite me to just sit in on the program, i went today for about 1 1/2 hrs, it was cool to see what was going on and to talk to the people going thru the program. funny thing, about 4-5 out of the 13 people in the cohort are all from my company!!! people who were either fired or took early retirement package so when i said where i was from, i got quite the reaction!! in any case it is good to keep my name fresh in the professor's mind so when(not if) i am ready i will have a good shot at being selected. the program only accepts 15 math people each year. i was well on my way to being choosen the year i did apply, but then i pulled my name out because i knew it was not going to be feasible that year. it was a heartbreak though, the program started the day after i turned 40!! it sure seemed like it was meant to be back then.

not that i am complaining about my current job, i am still keeping in mind that the pay is good and it is very flexible and that i am lucky to have it! i am doing ok there but in my heart i just know sooner or later i WILL BE A TEACHER!!!

anyway, i am rambling. i hope you are doing ok over there. not that my post here is going to help at all!!!! we need someone to tell us a good joke. until then, i guess i'll get back to cleaning and packing for the camping outing, just my daughter and me, it's a girl scout thing <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> fun time and the weather report calls for excellent weather <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

robby, i just read your post again... i am really sorry for the hurt you are feeling right now. i can hear your pain and i really do feel for you. obviously i had to get my own written down before i could reach out to you better.

hang in there robby, you are doing the right thing and for good reasons, your W and your beautiful son, even though his teeth are TERRIBLE!!!

what dipti said, if that was her you were quoting, makes sense to me. it is kinda what i did when i was in my A. even though i was in A, i still kept watching my H very closely, i really wanted to believe he finally understood how bad a state our marriage was in and i really wanted to believe he was serious about wanting to improve things, but it took a long time before i finally did believe. i still believe my A was somewhat different than the norm. even while in A, deep down i so badly wanted marriage to work out, like you said, i really want to be in a relationship that is extremely strong. where the person would rather go to a bad movie with you than a movie they would prefer to see on their own (that is my favorite way of saying it). but a relationship where each person really matters to the other person. having a marriage where there was so much distance between us was killing me. still i made a horrible decision to cheat on him. i'm not saying otherwise. i am just saying, i can relate very well. if that helps at all, i can relate robby, but i truely believe no matter what if we stay the course and remain healthy partners in the end it will work out!!

hang in there!!!!!

Robby,

Dude. I am so sorry. So so so sorry.

(((((((Robby)))))))

I wish I were a guy, so I could come over, we could watch some sort of sport, play with your kid, and it would not be weird or inappropriate. Where we could hang out and be friends and there would be no danger of hurting your w or developing an A. Then, in the most non gay way I could muster, I would try to make you feel loved. Give you a big hug.....Ok...not to threaten your masculinity, but maybe this scenario works better if you were a girl and I was a girl. And we could hug and cry on each other's shoulder and watch movies with Brad Pit in it, and eat Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream, give each other pedicures, and talk about our stretch marks, etc. I know you are close by, and I can read the isolation, loneliness and pain in your post.

It is not right that she be out all the time. I don't know what to tell you.

I know this site is about marriage building, but I also know in order for anything to be built, both builder have to eventually be present and working on it. Which means, each of you hold equal responsibility. Also means, is she never wants to reinvest in the relationship, you will face a crossroads where you will either continue to live with the status quo, or not want to continue to wait for something that you desperately need (and deserve).

Robby, you try to gloss over the fact that you were the BS first. And, in all honesty, what did you do to fix your M then? It was still broken, and just got more and more sick, I am guessing.

So, I think I am saying, it is not time to walk away yet.

And while I may not be able to be your Rose, or you my Jack (Titanic reference), would it have been helpful if their pals pulled up in a motor boat. Maybe it would not be romantic, maybe it would not involve sex...but the friend boat has a blanket, some hugs, a six pack, and a small TV with the football game on. Oh yeah, and they are grilling steaks for us all on dry land.

What am I saying with this terrible analogy...well,

Woooah....oooohhhh...BABY YOU GOT FRIENDS!!!! Maybe in low places, BUT FRIENDS DAMNIT!!!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

FL & DipiT-

You Rock! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

I do follow your threads, fl, but I don’t necessarily believe I am doing better than you…I think we simply have different personalities, different difficulties, different coping mechanisms. I think that it’s great that you’re going to pursue teaching (I knew about this as well). It sounds like a passion for you and that’s a very good thing!

Ok, I’ll complain about my current job: it sucks! I’ve made as much money ytd as I used to make monthly! There is an upside though. My humility exercises have advanced considerably! Can I have yours when you start teaching? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Brad Pitt is sooooo hot!

Why would you think I am close by? Sniff, sniff….

Do I smell that bad? I bathe weekly and turn my underwear inside-out every other day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hmm. What did I do to fix my M when I was the BS?

Well I protected myself of course….I retaliated. (sarcasm here) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I didn’t do anything that is found on MB, that’s for sure…M was sick so let’s add a little more relationship cancer, shall we? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I think I’ve grown a bunch as a person since then. I hope so. Also, to my Titanic analogy, Jack wasn’t an *******…

I LOVE STEAKS!!!

More than anything…

But one…

FRIENDS! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks guys…

So, do you really have a boat? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

i have a boat, just got it 2 weekends ago.

trust me you don't want my job!!! the company is going headed for ice burgs, one of these days it might end up like the titanic. well probably not, it's too big of a company, i think!!

here is some fabulous news of the day... i got into a car accident. wait, lets not sugar coat it, i lost control of my car and messed it up big time. thankfully no one was hurt, i was only one in car. i had an eye witness pull over and she swears there was a white truck that zoomed past me on the left side and side-swiped me and that is why i lost control. i personally have NO IDEA!!! the thing is, i was about 1/2 mile from my house on the on ramp to the expressway and i realized seat belt was not yet on, so i went to put it on, looked down for a sec and the next thing i knew i was out of control. i hit a regular sized curb on the right side of the road, ended up in a spin and stopped facing the wrong direction on the ramp, quickly moved it over to the side. both tires on the right were blown. on the left side there is a scrap going down the entire length of the car, the door openned but not easily.

of course my first thought as i was shaking like a leaf is, now H is going to be even more mad at me. i had to call home and wake him up. he did come help me, drove out to pick me up and look it over, he said he was not mad but you could not tell my his face or tone of voice. he said it was cuz he was woken up and was tired. he was out late last night and then didn't sleep well, when i woke up at 6am he was on the couch, he said it was just cuz he couldn't sleep due to stuffy nose, not cuz of what i had told him the night before. once back home we sat down on the couch and i asked him if he could help convince me that he was not mad or annoyed at me. in the most monotone voice a person could do he said, i am not mad or annoyed and that is the best i can do. i'm trying hard to believe his words and ignore the body/voice language. i swear the guy has NO ablity to show any emotion!!

but i am ok and that is what counts. car is in the shop. i don't know what to do regarding police report, i am waiting for call back. i did get info from the lady that says she saw the truck side swipe me. either way H says he is not going to tell insurance and have us just handle it, he does not think it will end up to be too bad. the biggest cost is probably getting the two new tires. hopefully there will be no structual damage, garage guy says he won't know till the new tire is on and it can be driven.

daughter and i are supposed to leave about 1pm today. we are going to rent a car for the weekend. i have a HUGE HEADACHE!!!!!!! "calgon take me away!!" i am still looking forward to camping.

by the way, i have never seen the titanic. i was not happy with the concept of wrapping a love story around a terrible tragedy and i have stuck to that. (i did love the song though).

also robby... you are funny, kinda gross thougths there, but funny.

Wow! I'm glad you're ok!

Never wake a sleeping H...

...unless you get run off the road...

...or other emergency...

Seriously though, I'm glad you were not hurt! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

What gross thoughts?

Do you mean you don't think Brad Pitt is sooooo hot! ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Have a great time camping! Watch out for snipes!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

<small>[ July 16, 2004, 11:41 AM: Message edited by: robby13 ]</small>

If you only knew. Either it is just me, and I am a lunatic (this is a rhetorical comment, by the way) or this is normal for women, but there is constant chatter in my mind all day long. So, dialogue is a LOW estimate.

Come out..

Come out...

Where ever you are... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ROBBBBBY...can we talk about Brad Pit?

Anytime....

He is soooo hot!!!

How you doin'?

I saw the cutest purses today at this little shop....oh wait...my fantasy of us being able to switch gender, just a fantasy.

Alas.

So, how have you been faring since this morning, Leo DiCaprio?