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FIL is recovering- just talked to him. says h brings ow to hospital and altho he wishes h would restore our M FIL doesn't think that will happen....icky news. laying it on Gods altar....pray for us....
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anyone out there?
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Morning Sprezz,
I am on my way out but have a few minutes....... have you thought about my questions yet?
L.
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hi Orchid-letting ow meet his needs?
I guess she is- part of the family fold now according to h parents.
I'm dark........
what he says he wants is freedom to do whatever he wants-when he wants. tired of household responsibility etc...
so he moves in with someone who is still M and has a young child?
says he hasn't filed as he has no $$ yet. like where does he think hes going to get it?
I just don't GET it. so gross.
thanks lady
PEACE OUT
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U nailed it when you said he has no $$ for the D but goes with someone who will eventually put demands on him.
It takes a while Sprezz. He needs to see where his actions take him. Reality check of sorts.
If his parents are supporting the A, then you have an added obstacle. That does not mean hitting bottom won't happen. It will. Just a matter of when.
In the meantime you work on strengthening you. Move forward and then see what you really want. Have you read believer's thread? She is realizing her H may not be worth all the effort she thought she wanted or needed.
The question is: Am I fighting for the idea of being married or because I love my spouse?
L.
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I love my spouse.
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Sprezz,
I see that you are STILL blowing the way whichever it is, that he is blowing, worrying about your H, concentrating on wanting the M back.
Please STOP.
NO CONTACT. Don't worry about what he is doing, you DO NOT control it! Just let him go through this. He MUST go through it. NOTHING you do right now will matter one single bit. HE must walk this road himself. And you need to get your life together to the point that you have one that is apart from your H. That is the ONLY thing you can really DO at this point, as hard as that is.
I know I make it sound so easy, but I truly believe, through my own experience and many, many successful posters that this is the best, shortest and most beneficial way to cope.
Thinking of you.
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