Hi....I am sorry, I didn't mean to insinuate that you were putting BV down. When I say that God can only use broken vessels, it means that until a person is "emptied" of himself , God cannot step in and FILL them with Himself. God can take that broken person and fill them and then and only then can they be used for His glory. When we are too "full" of ourselves, we do things our own way, sometimes without really realizing that. We think we are "doing the right thing", but we may have it all wrong.
Yes, God can use a "whole" vessel....but it is only truly whole again when he does the fixing...
The Bible is filled with people who were "broken"...at their lowest, the worst sinners of all...and God took them and filled them and they turned out to be the greatest witensses to who God is and what He can do. But He can't DO anything when we think we have it all together and think we don't NEED Him.

Sorry for the misunderstanding!

Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ July 25, 2004, 01:53 PM: Message edited by: onlywords ]</small>

BV,

People will SAY the right thing, BELIEVE the right things, and TELL you what is wrong and what to do about it, but any one of those people could STILL find themselves in the middle of an affair.
How do I know this? Because the OM in my affair SAID and BELIEVED and TOLD me right from wrong and POINTED out what I was doing and why and there he was anyway, standing in front of me trying to get me to take my pants off.

And I also used to be one of those people that believed affairs were wrong and made judgements about those involved in them.

Now I still believe that they are wrong, but I will NEVER point a finger at others who have done wrong again.

Love you,

Julie

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BV, good for you for apologizing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ July 27, 2004, 02:19 AM: Message edited by: Broken Vessell ]</small>

Now where were we? How was church BV?

I went to church and then fishing with my son in the surf. It was very nice. I caught one little croker, but threw it back.

This evening we are going fishing on the pier. It is always fun, lots of people watching.

<small>[ July 25, 2004, 05:31 PM: Message edited by: believer ]</small>

BV,

Recovering H and I went to Bedside Baptist Church this morning....Reverend Sheets was preaching.

We are doing fine. How boring is that?

Take Care,

"Believer"

OOH OOH can I play?

OW, are you SURE you are not on the infamous "NCWalker Weird Christian List?" Nice response about the broken vessel.

RAP & I had a wonderful time with the 3DS. I gave her permission to go get ice cream. Well, really she asked but it was one of those "Don't say no" kind if questions.

She deserved it. Had a hard weekend with her feelings and came through like a trooper. The 3DS are pretty happy. All in all, a wonderful Sunday.

"JL" (or do I assume to much?)

Sorry BV, couldn't resist the tease. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

NC -

You are another one that we ladies really rely on. You and JL are wise, and kind, and give us new insite.

I (even as the BS rely heavily on you guy's posts). Hope that will not be viewed as "inappropriate" by anyone.

I think after you have been through the pain of this for a long time, you tend to reach out to anyone in pain.

I have two mottos - "love them all, and let God sort them out", and "there but for the grace of God, go I".

Hi everyone. H and I had a very nice day.

I am really struggling, but I just sat back and looked at this family I have. I cannot believe what God has allowed me to have.

I also cannot believe I have been given another chance. I am sooooo blessed.

Anyway, I hope I did not offend too much with my post.

I hesitate to post because my thoughts don't come up too pretty sometimes.

My main goal was to encourage BV to just be who she is. I know I really need to be able to do so. Warts and all. I have many and need desperately to show them so I can be rid of them once and for all. This is the first place I have really felt able to do that.

onlywords,

I love reading your posts. They always humble me. It is not the time, but I still feel I owe you and everyone else an apology. July 4th week was so horrible that I really can't remember everything. Weird but true.

You all were very helpful, and it was wrong of me to just dissappear. I just couldn't handle what was going on, and just kind of shut down. I should have at least posted. I am sorry.

Thanks for all the help.

Anyway, as NCW posted, we had a very nice day. I would like my emotions to line up, but I am practicing! God has given me so much, and I feel like shouting about it right now!

Corny? Yes. But I had forgotten for a while. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Love to all,

RAP

BV and believer,
love to you both...

runawaypot -

Good to hear from you again. I hope that you will keep posting your feelings. That is what has helped me the most. On this board, your feelings may not always be the most popular, and you may get negative feedback, I still think you need to reveal them.

The BS has feelings, and that is accepted here. But it seems like the FWS cannot post their feelings. I don't really agree with that.

Glad you had a good day with NC and your sons.

Believer!

Hi. I have thought a lot about you today. How was church? How did you feel without your H?

I hope you enjoyed it. You truly deserve to.

Thanks for the reply. I hope I did not offend with my post. I hope I can still work on becoming a Proverbs 31 woman. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Blessings to you,

RAP

PS. I think NCW wants to adopt you as his other mother. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Somehow, I don't think you are old enough. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

RAP -

Church was good and so was my day. Hope you are doing well.

I hope we can keep this thread alive. So far moving forward seems to have disappeared. It is vitally important for everyone to post their feelings, even if they are not popular.

Sweetie I am old enough to be NC mother, and I think from now on I will be the "mother" on this thread. Love to you and NC.

RAP...how are you and BV doing. I'm so sorry that I've been such a slacker these days at posting. I'm working longer hours with new job, which I don't mind at all <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> , but it just seems like things have been so busy lately that I haven't had much of an opportunity to get on. What's going on with you two ladies?

I want to say hi to everyone else on this thread too. BV...all my favorite MB buddies are right here on your thread!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Dear BV,

I have just read all the posts and I just want to say I’m so sorry about the temporary inappropriate & ineffective ‘distractions’ & assumptions you received on this thread during the past weekend... However, you handled it in a very civil manner. You were able to raise above all that ‘crap’, and continue doing what matters: Focusing on the recovery of yourself and your marriage. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> BV, personally I feel you didn’t do anything that justifies an apology to anyone. In fact, I think YOU were the one who was supposed to receive apologies... It was very obvious that the posters you apologized to, didn’t apologize back to you as well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Also very dissapointing to see how people sometimes advocate against name-calling while they has practiced that same inappropriate & disrespectfull behavior in the past. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> However BV, your civil and good-natured behavior through all of this and your willingness to be the least in spite of all the ‘attacks’ you received, speaks VOLUMES of your humbleness, spirit and good character. You know BV, I have learned something very valuable: Don’t pay attention to posts which are destructive, are meant to hurt/discourage you or are not helpful to you in any way...especially if wrong assumptions are made. Don’t take it personally either. I know this is difficult sometimes since I’m also a thin-skinned; emotional & ‘feeling' person. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I’m glad you have decided to continue posting your feelings here since I think it is insightful & helpful to others. I’m glad to see that you don’t allow yourself to be ‘distracted’ by certain posts since this board is a SAFE and OPEN place and a helpful place to vent and get your feelings out. Most importantly, your are open & honest with your H and you’re sharing all the threads, posts and responses WITH him. There is nothing secretive from the help you receive from JL and I think some posters failed to recognize that.

Can someone tell me how to change the NAME off this thread to something else without having to start a new topic??

BV, go to your FIRST post on this thread, press the ‘edit’ button and then you will be able to change the name of the thread.

Will post again later, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Suzet

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