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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I really appreciate the words from Bramble Rose regarding recovery. Yeah, if he can ever get rid of her...He doesn't want a D, wants me to stay in Vermont at his beck and call. I cannot picture myself where you are at all at this point. Love bank getting awfully low. In fact, the only time a large deposit is made is with SF, which we can't seem to stop doing despite all of this. It is the only time when he is around that I don't feel sick.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It took 18 months from DDay for my husband to pull his head out of the fog. I filed for divorce because correctly I truely believed that the OW was a serious threat to me and my children both financially, legally and emotionally. I correctly believed that she intended harm to me and my children.
What I incorrectly believed was that she was here to stay. My husband was SOOOOOO in love with her. She was what he'd been missing all his life. She was everything a woman should be, and what I wasn't.
Yeah right. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
Now that I have the advantage of a number of years on the whole situation, I see that while I was IN the situation, I really wasn't a good judge of what was going on.
Even if I hadn't filed for divorce, that woman wouldn't have lasted with my husband. She needed too much expensive plastic surgery to keep up the lie that she was 10 years younger than she really was <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> (among many other reasons!)
Right now, take care of you. Don't worry about him. If you are selling the house because HE needs money to live on...well I'll be the first to spank ya. If you are selling the house and moving in with your folks, it better be because it is the absolute best thing for you and the kids to get thru this time.
Don't lose your house because he needs money to live on - he's made the choices that leave your family in this mess, its his problem if he cant afford to live up there and his family cant live with him because he's selfish and dishonest. If someone has to go without, it better be him, not you and the kids.
<small>[ July 18, 2004, 11:15 PM: Message edited by: BrambleRose ]</small>
