Horizon, I'm not sure about cystitis - I didn't think it was sexually transmitted. It might be an unfortunate coincidence. As for testing, well, you should be aware whether you have any problems (any recent changes etc). The important one to look out for in women is genital warts because it's such a big risk factor for cervical cancer. A check with a gynie might be desirable. Often they are seen by the trained eye - the test is very unpleasant, if they are to know for certain. Otherwise you need to stick with yearly pap smears to be on the safe side.

Top Rope, Your rantings are fully justified. It's pretty terrible from the viewpoint of those totally unsmitten by self gratification. It seems the replies mostly show that protection is rarely used. There was one clear thinking WW in the early responses that used protection. She made me feel better.

Part of the reason I asked is that my H told me that he didn't get as far as intercourse. Naturally he thought it was going to lead to intercourse and had contemplated the condom problem. e.g. would he enjoy it enough wearing a condom? I must admit that I've often thought about the kinds of issues that worried H during the A. Really heavy stuff yeah? But H told me that he was afraid of disease too. We live in Asia and his OW was a very young woman with an eye for the main chance. If you call my badling, wrinkly 50 yo H a main chance. I guess I'm wondering whether, when push came to shove (pun intended) whether he'd have used protection. I think he would have been sh*t scared of getting her pregnant, even if he did believe her story about her being a virgin.

If a man is wanting a "bit of fluff" for good times, does he risk not using protection? The above responses suggest that intelligent people can be really, really stupid.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Are there any FWS's out there who insisted on using protection during A sex?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, always.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If so, was it the thought of disease or the thought of pregnancy that motivated you? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, and Yes! What am I, nuts? Obviously…

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sorry, I don't believe him for a minute</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My W did/does not believe me either. Not one bit. Soon after D-Day I went to a clinic on my own…

Took the entire battery of tests, waited for the results and then handed them to her.

I wasn’t trying to prove anything, just wanted her to have one less thing to worry about.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> The above responses suggest that intelligent people can be really, really stupid.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Incredibly stupid… <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Todd1967,

My WW also was involved with a cruise ship employee. Did you find out his name and what cruise line he was working for? The attorneys that I have spoken to, say the cruise lines (while openly saying that have strict rules against ANY fraternization) do nothing. In my instance I was threatened by the legal cousel for the line with slander if I carried out my threat to give out my story to the media.

My TBXWW used protection occasionally, if at all, in her 3+ affairs. From the first time she and I were together, she always hated condoms... I remember when she first wanted us to stop using them and I resisted, she said, "I feel like you think I'm not clean or something." Wow... the irony.

I got tested shortly before I moved out, all negative fortunately. That is a hell of an indignity... having to go and do that, because of ANOTHER person's selfishness and their willingness to deny you the right to make choices about your own health. She insisted I didn't have to get tested, because she'd "asked the OMs the right questions", etc. Oh okay, I feel better... because scumbag [censored] would NEVER lie in order to get laid...

Grrrr.

Res, WS's are willing to risk hurting us emotionally more than we've ever been hurt in our lives - way more. The emotional pain, as you well know, is horrendous. So, guess, exposing us to disease, that we may or maynot get, isn't too important on the scale of things. Though it seems some WS, be it all very few, did think of protection. Mmmm. Wonder whether it was to protect them own precious jewels or their spouses. Don't answer that!!!