Believer...Mine says OW knows about his whereabouts and our meetings.

WS says OW gave him permission by telling him it is his decision on whatever he wants to do including making love to me. Of course this attitude scores high marks with WS...

But OW is showing cracks because she starts text messaging WS at lot whenever he is with me.

During my plan B, OW has reign supreme over WH...now with me back in the picture, it does not look so cosy for her no more!!!

I guess the poor thief has to learn the hard lesson that all married man are cake eaters and comes with a lot of baggage.

I get sad whenever i think about divorce...sort of the end of something i treasure but at the same time...i know i have to move on.

A lot of friends are ready to pair me up with potential mate. I have stayed away. When is the right time to open my heart to someone else???

Hi Zizzy,

Stay strong now. Don't break. You're a tough woman, you know? Looks like there is not much trust in OW and H's relationship either. And IMO, as long as you are his wife, you can ask for 'little favors'-- you know, a little help with this and a little help with that to get H back into your 'territory'.

BTW, here's a good example of a 180 degree story, how a MB BS got her H back: Carol's 180 degree story

Zizzy, you don't have to do anything you are not ready to; you don't have to go to the lawyers until you feel sure to let go. (Let OW squirm a bit.)

When my H left, I had a few dates, and they were really good for my self esteem, but I am glad I didn't continue into a relationship with them... I was too mixed up then! I am determined that my next R will deserve the best of me, complete and whole. You'll know when it's the right time for the next relationship. You'll have to claim yourself back first. So much love and happiness have been taken away.

I love reading that you've got a complete whole new wardrobe! You deserve the best, Zizzy! R

Ruff....you are right...i am too mix up now to think about another relationship. I dont even feel like i am up to the whole process of ending this marriage. Whenever i think about divorce and the actual of it...i get all upset. I think i might consider doing what you advice...drag plan D and make OW squirm.

What little favors can i ask? Is making love in the list!??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I have never have had no sex longer than 2 months!!!! It is going to my head.

I can relate to Carol KH story...since i started opening the door...i have been getting a lot of rejection. No to the movies...no to dinner...no this and no that. I feel like a beggar. I thought i will only do this for this week...just to let him know that it is safe again to ask me out or whatever if he wants to. Next week i am not going to ask him for anything unless he ask first. I've got to get some of my pride back. Getting rejected is lousy feeling.

It seemed WH will only do stuff together with me in the picture if DD is involve. Sort of an excuse for himself and OW??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Today i invited WS to join us at the beach. He turned up early. The whole day was fun. I did not
mention one word about his relationship or ours.

I kept hinting to him that i am thinking about starting new relationship with other man. Also about some married man are hitting on me which is a fact at the moment.

WH did not like to hear this at all. WH said he does not what to know of anything like this sort. He was definately jealous. I told him where we live is a small town therefore eventually if i got out with someone, he will know. I told him that he needs to face the fact that oneday he might see another man living in our house and his DD calling this man her step dad.

This married man who is also hitting on me is my currently boss...dont worry...i am not interested in him. Anyway, WH knows him so then WH said that he is thinking of telling my boss off. I told WH that if he keeps doing that and chasing all the men away whenever they take interest in me then how am i going to find another man??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Then WH asked me why am i telling him all this...so i said i needed to get laid coz it has been a long time now in a flirty sort of way. WH laughed when he heard this. This is where the interesting part starts happening. From this point onwards i feel like i am playing a cat and mouse game. But the seed has been planted and before long he started to say things like...i smell good...i look good...do i really need to get laid...etc etc.

I held my cool. I flirt back as good as i can. I guess i could have made my move and gotten him in bed again but i did not. I wanted my pride back. If he wants me then he has to get ME.

We ended the day in a good note with a lot of sexual tension. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I didnt even kiss him good bye...let him wonder <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ August 15, 2004, 08:32 AM: Message edited by: zizzycool ]</small>

zizzy - Way to go!!!!!

However, do not get involved with other men right now. You want to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship. First you have to get through whatever happens with your husband. I know, not fun, but necessary.

Thanks believer...i am getting along fine without the idiot.

Last monday he drop by the house to pass something to DD. Casually i invited WS over for dinner and he said yes but needed to go home to take his bath first.

I had extra food cook waited for him. After waiting for sometime i text message him, asking what time he will be dropping by. Then he called back and told me that he does not feel right about coming over. His reason is that he does not want me to have false hope and he does not want to make use of me just have free food.

I told him that i will not force him to come for dinner if he doesnt feel right about it. I ended the call as cordial as i could.

But later i boiled with rage and i broke all rules, called him and gave him a piece of my mind. I told him that he has to stop thinking about himeself and start to think about other people. He said he was thinking about me and that was why he decided its best he does not come over for dinner.

I told him first thing, since i invited then it is my right to decide what is best for me and the second if it was any other person beside me, he would have gladly had dinner with that person. I told him it is rude for one to say yes for dinner then later cancelled it for no good reason.

After that treatment,I registered myself on all those find a match and meet your ideal match sites. Got a few good responds from other men. It made me feel good and it fills my time. At least i am getting responds from other men and i do not have to wait for any from stbxh.

If this sounds like a revenge welll...so what...i am having fun and i enjoying myself for once since this whole mess started. Also since i am already heading for D...i dont see any point waiting in the sideline for the idiot to notice me.

The best part of the story was telling WH last night that i was going out for a date and got him to babysit DD. When i came home he thought i was drunk because i was in a happy mood. Actually i watch Cat Woman by myself and did not drink one drop of alcohol.

Then...guess what...a phone call from WH to office this morning!!!??? WH said he was sorry that he walk out lastnight abruptly...huh??? If he did i sure did not notice it. Then he asked again if i drank last night. I laughed and asked him what did he think?

WH said he does not like it when i drink and drive. This was the point i cut him off by telling him that my boss was looking for me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> That felt good coz from the sound of his goodbye...he did not like being cut off. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I hope he feels it coz i have been cut off like a rotten tree branch, thrown to one side like a rotten apple, rejected like a toilet paper and i have had enough!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />