DLC, I'm glad you're a little better today. You got a great response from JL on your other thread, and I hope you take it seriously.

I still think you need to back away. Give yourself some distance, stop worrying so much about how your actions are going to be perceived, and get a life. I still sense you are hanging on too tightly. You remind me of a water skier who has fallen but refuses to let go of the rope.

Have a great day - I'm so glad your boy is doing better. Try to spend your day celebrating and being thankful for that. Cheers,

GC

How's this for irony: my colleague set me up on Match.com to prove that I do have much to offer a lady. Guess who shows up as my top match? My WW new best friend, one whose life she wants to emulate. This woman, also a doctor, wants to settle down and is tired of the run-around. My WW was so surprised that her 'lifestyle mentor' was looking for a husband to settle with. Completely unrelated, but telling…

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Hey Dliegh-

You are not supposed to date for a year, guy. You wouldn't be much good on a date right now anyway, would you.

You're family is NOT gone. You are always going to be the dad to your kids. NOTHING can take that away. Concentrate right now on being the best dad you can be. There is absolutely nothing more attractive than a great dad. And nothing that says your value or success as that.

Everybody is lonely sometimes, and everybody hurts sometimes - just like that song says. You will be OKAY. Just hang in there.


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A year seems too SHORT. I'm not interested in dating now. Looking at all of those profiles just tells me how much of a family man I am. I never dated. I was with WW since end of High School. I won't even know where my emotions will fall for several months. I'm just trying to recover right now.

I feel your pain D,

Though I’m not always a real warm and cuddly guy, I knew I could count on my wife’s innate nurturing quality when I needed the support. Now the one whom I could always turn to is not there, in fact she’s the very cause of the worst trauma I’ve experienced.

Allow yourself the pain and anguish. It’s impossible to escape it, I know. Grieve your change and the loss of a loved one. Realize that there is no set ritual for the process as there is for a death. Many of your friends and family may not know how to react and may avoid the subject altogether. Be compassionate towards their ignorance.

Allow yourself a few distractions as an occasional respite from the sorrow. One day you will realize you are starting to feel better. Let yourself. Feeling better does not mean you loved her any less or detracts from your sense of commitment to family. Give yourself permission r to heal.

Focus on your children. It’s obvious you can concentrate on a goal and take as pragmatic approach towards it as possible. Become a student of parenting. Become a nurturer. They will need a level head and a stable home. Make that your objective.

Please keep track of your progress. I may need the benefit of your experience as my marriage heads for dissolution.
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This grief. How long does it usually last?

I don't know DLC, but I want you to post something funny one day soon, or I'm gonna come over there and tie you up until you tell a joke!

GC

lol! thanks for the laugh. yours is in the mail.

The baby's better! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I'm home, waiting for him (my mom is at the hospital getting him). I can't wait to see him home again. I have both boys this weekend and I'm looking forward to some life in this house!

This pain is hard on me. I don't want the boys to see it. I want to be in the 'happy now' they bring when they're here. There is so much going on in my heart that I can barely think...