Holly/Pam,<P>If I felt like that about the OM it would be easier. There are times that I do, and times I don't. It doesn't help that I've been going through this crap with my H... the bar visits, the "meaningful hug", etc. <P>In the meantime, and I know how this will sound but you will know what I mean, the OM and I HAVE to have daily contact at work. God, if only I could leave or he would! I't just way too hard to have to look at him. He isn't the slightest bit mean to me, wants to find a way to be "friends" (HAHAHA, like THAT can be done!) and both of us keep our jobs. I don't know WHAT to do.<P>Yes, a thread like that would be a good idea, I think. I think I'd like to at least write that letter even if he never sees it. I'm afraid to even speak to him let alone give him a letter. Talk about adding fuel to a fire! It **IS** over, has been for months, but having to deal with him is hell on earth.<P>My needs? What are they? I know that some would think that I had them met when I screwed around. Not true (as most betrayers on this board will attest to). My needs were not being met and still aren't. I'm in a bad, bad place right now and it stinks.<P>By the way, my H and I are hanging in there together. He's begun to post here (he's 3wishes) and that makes me happy. That is a gratitude, for sure.<P>Thanks for caring, Pam...