That letter is a FREAKING MASTERPIECE!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Now I'm jealous.I want someone to send a similar letter to the homewrecker for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

O

Octobergirl -

I'm sure that can be arranged!


Deleigh so happy to see you are in a better place today! Even getting a little enjoyment from the letter. It must be an incredible relief that other people are sticking up for your family.

Weaver

What good would it do if people at MB wrote letters on each others' behalf to send to their WS or OP? Those of us who know DLC's story could just as easily have written that and sent it to OM.

Shoot, I want to write Juke's and Mr Joad's WWs letters. But better still would be if FWSs wrote letters to WSs.

A vast conspiracy to interfere and disrupt affairs.

It's crazy. Just thinking out loud. Never mind. I'm going swimming.

GC

This thread should be saved somehow, I just can't get over how wonderful that letter is!!!

I LOVE GC's idea of sending a message to OP's.We could all proof read our combined responses(Plan R for Reprimand or Plan F for Fog breaker) and then "You've got mail" OP.

Weaver,

Be careful what you're suggesting.I may just take you up on that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

O

Hey GC - I'll write a letter if you want!!!

chackler, that is very generous. I'd like to take you up on it. Contact me!

fall@mindspring.com

GC

I like this idea. There are, of course, significant problems and risks associated with it. If someone decided, for example, to put false information out and then invite others to use it, it would be libel or slander or something.

There's also something about harassment in there somewhere.

I do NOT object to this, mind you. I just want to note that there are risks and each person who's willing to do it (includin me) had best be cognizant of those risks.

That said.... I would also suggest some guidelines.

First, BE RESPECTFUL. There is absolutely no reason to call names, rant, rave, or generally be a creep. Much as I love this letter, I wouldn't use it as a model for my own letters. In these awful situations, a calm statement of the facts and the incredible hurt that has been caused is more than enough.

Second, don't just write to the OP. That's easy to blow off. Here are some suggestions for people to write to:

- The OP's spouse, if any.
- The OP's parents.
- The OP's boss and/or HR department, if it's a workplace affair.
- The OP's clergy.
- The OP's siblings.
- The WS's parents.
- The WS's siblings.
- The WS's boss and/or HR department, if it's a workplace affair.
- The WS's clergy.

Now, if you're willing to have people write letters on your behalf, PLEASE give out this personal information ONLY to people you trust. I'm pretty sure that most of the longtime posters on this board are trustworthy -- but there are crazy people everywhere, you know?

Okay, I'm done giving warnings and stuff. I love this idea -- if it can be implemented carefully and safely.

JustJ, absolutely right. The "you are pathetic" stuff, for example, would be an example of what not to write.

I wouldn't want anybody to get carried away and start expecting something like this to make much difference either. But I must admit, the "You can't educate them" policy is given a twist when you ask, "Okay, but could somebody else plant any seeds in their minds?"

Ideally, the best frame for something like this would be FWS -> WS, FOP -> OP. That way the communication could revolve around an expression of empathy - "I know what you are probably feeling right now because I was there once."

This brings me to a question. Are there any FWHs around here?

Oh, ncwalker is in trouble for those who haven't noticed yet.

GC

Sounds like a good idea. 3rd party messages often have more impact. I'm sure there will be some fallout from this I'll let you know what happens...

It will be interesting to see the response to this. the OM called me at my job months ago, accusing me of harassing him. i wonder if he starts with that pap again. Although there is nothing in that letter that isn't true he'll implode to be exposed...

Will it lift the fog? No. but had this been done earlier in the A (for some of you out there), maybe.

Heya, dleightonc -- would you drop me an e-mail? I've got a question for you. My e-mail address is in the signature line. Thanks!

on its way...

Before my DV was final last week SH, spoke of the value of exposure. After, he said it my seem vindictive. No response to me yet, but it seems that this letter made VERY WIDE rounds. I wonder what is the difference of reactions based on what 'stage' the A is.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dleightonc:
<strong> It will be interesting to see the response to this. the OM called me at my job months ago, accusing me of harassing him. i wonder if he starts with that pap again. Although there is nothing in that letter that isn't true he'll implode to be exposed...

Will it lift the fog? No. but had this been done earlier in the A (for some of you out there), maybe. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Harassment vs invasion of privacy? Which carries a greater sentence?

L.

Good question, although his privacy was not invaded. All info gathered om him is public domain or offered up but him or his friends.

I doubt he'll engage me or anyone else with those games. I frankly don't care to play with him. It doesn't change my sitch any.

Good question, although his privacy was not invaded. All info gathered om him is public domain or offered up but him or his friends.

I doubt he'll engage me or anyone else with those games. I frankly don't care to play with him. It doesn't change my sitch any.

Not his privacy.... yours. Legally, I think you have more to say, just be careful how you word it. After all he is suppose to be protecting the safety of this country, yet..... he chooses to invade the privacy of those he is suppose to protect?!?!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

L.

Wow. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I hadn't looked at it like that. OM looks worse and worse the more you look at him.