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ForeverHers wrote:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">dlc - You're doing great. I know each day still seems like a month, but keep on hanging in there.

Affairs flourish in secret and through denial. The sheer refusal to even consider that the "thrill" might actually have some consequences, and that some of them might be big consequences is amazing. Fog so thick they can't see beyond their own selfishness.

I'd love to be a "fly on the wall" next to the investigators. Things should get very interesting.

And yes, just in case you are wondering, I'm arm-in-arm with you in "righteous anger" and hoping that the "system" really does let them know that what they've been up is NOT "right and proper" and IS considered wrong by a whole lot of people other than just you.

Now, are you "guarding your heart" to be ready if your wife has an epiphany?

God bless. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My Reply:

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I am guarding my heart, but it's under attack!! Women are coming at me from all angles, encouraging me to move on, telling me I 'deserve more', etc. Seeming blessings, probable temptations. I'm legally divorced now so the 'protection' being married held is gone. Any suggestions? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Damn, I love this story.

Ahhh, if only the OM in my story were so highly placed. But no, a contract employee computer technician at NOAA is probably not involved in anything more heinous than IMing the love of his life from his cubical.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Women are coming at me from all angles, encouraging me to move on, telling me I 'deserve more', etc. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Tell them they are correct, you do deserve more, and you are working on it...then leave it at that.

Slam the door on that...but gently. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

- Kimmy

Great comeback! I'll use it early and often...

dlc - responded on your thread in Recovery.

Setting priorities is SO important. xW's moving on desire, kids on needs, family/friends on opinion. None of these folks have tried to understand this beyond their own perspectives.

Sometimes it seems like work, keeping my emotions and reactions in check. But the i look at the consequences of losing control and remind myself how unchecked desire tanked my M.