Thanks so much Orchid for all the encouragement. Is it common that WH agree to confront the OW with the BS? Should I be giving my H any additional kudos to encourage this type of cooperation?

Beginning of Day 4 for me. Last night I received a call from a MC to set up an appointment and sign up for a couple workshop. After 3+ hours of talking last night to my WH, I realize that not only do I need to deal with my feeling regarding the A (trust, betrayal, etc.) I also have to evaluate why I love him. To me my love for him had predominantly grew out of how much he adored me and how that made me feel so important and beautiful. Well, the last year of relationship has put many strains on that feeling and now the A has demolished any gleen of feeling adored by him. So I know I have to dig deeper to see how deep is my love for him. Really tough questions to deal with pregnant and definately something a MC can help me distinguish from all the other emotions that are going on right now.

He still believes that he could have done worse than many of the people he reads about on MB and that he has made much more progress in 3 days than most WS. I want to celebrate that with him, but don't feel I really should. He has such short attention span that I can't say if 2 weeks or 2 months from now he will still be "on the wagon".

Am I right to feel this way? Do any of you BS actually celebrate steps forward with your WS? How do I do that and still keep focus on the long road ahead?

Anyone?!!!

LoneStar,

That is a good question. You should start a new post with this as the heading on the post.

Sometimes as the thread goes on and on less people look at it.

k