I see your point but you could start with the less sexy stuff and work your way up. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
The old expression, "clothes make the man", lends itself to why women tend to shop so much for new clothes. It's sort of like putting on a new identity. She needs a new identity don't you think?

You are in the early, early stages of building a whole new marriage here. Who you are together as a couple is going to change, hopefully in a way that enhances both of you as individuals. I'm not saying that clothes shopping is going to be a major fix but your interest and imput into how she looks is maybe something new and different that you can do together.

How are you guys doing in terms of spending fun time together? Harley recommends 15 hours a week min. Maybe some of that could be spent window or catalog shopping (I know, boring!) together. Sometimes, the things you thought you'd hate doing turn out to be all right b/c the end result is deposits in the Love Bank. Just a thought. KB

My WW is foggy right now - withdrawing not rebuilding. We spending a lot of time together but it ain't necessarily Quality time.

She needs to decide not to see OM again ( no tournaments) before we in recovery.

Not yet. But close.....God Willing. I would love to do that clothes shopping with her but right now she thinks I am unreasonable being affected by her OM sexy undies... * sigh * I will wait until she thinks its a bust before disposing of them. Also she has like 15 pairs of sexy undies yet they only 'did it' less than 10 times so not all were for him.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My car is booked in for repair, my prayer is being fired up anew and I am stronger than at any time since D-day. Not STRONG, but not shaking, thinking darkly or stuff. Spending good time with the kids has helped me enormously. I just took the kids and my Dog out for an hours summer walk and it was lovely.

And being away from the fog horn was nice for an hour too if I'm honest......

I love her, but I've been too much of a doormat, too much HER and not enough ME. I have to get ME strong first or theres no hope here for any of us. I've done nothing wrong here, I must stop behaving as if I have. Not arrogant or angry, just not so, well, delicate.

Its a hero's gig this BS one. We'll see if I am up for the challenge.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who is this pod person that has taken over Bob Pure's hopeless, helpless, suicidal shell of a mans body? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
This is the most dignified thing you have posted in days. Welcome back! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ August 11, 2004, 04:48 PM: Message edited by: ba109 ]</small>

I hope to recover enough to smack you in the mouth one day for your cheek Ba <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks mate. ((( ba )))