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Re: Urgent - Need Advice
#1173426 08/18/04 02:30 PM
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And then of course there are the stock comments of
"You had your chance"
"Too little too late"
"I love you but I'm not in love with you"

Any ideas on how to respond to those?

Agree. Always agree.

"Yeah, me too. I took chances."

"Yes, I agree. Late is late. Little is little."

"I love you and I am not out of love."

Babble back pleasantly but always agree. Even if you then state the opposite. You are basically simply agreeing that her feelings are real to her ... not that she is making sense.

Touch her face... DON'T FORGET.

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Re: Urgent - Need Advice
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HEy Pep, if she actually listens to my response isn't she going to wonder what the heck I'm talking about?
Re: Urgent - Need Advice
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by parkem1:
<strong> HEy Pep, if she actually listens to my response isn't she going to wonder what the heck I'm talking about? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes... let her wonder. Besides, her crap is nonsense. Part of the fun of Plan A is to confuse the WS ... shake their tree. Don't LB, but don't try to educate or lecture... won't work, comes off as "trying to control me." Don't worry about it. Making sense is not the point. Remember, logic does NOT penetrate fog.

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Thank you all for your advice and encouragement. I am getting ready to take off from work for the day and probably won't be back on before my dinner. Any prayers would be much appreciated!

I thank you God for allowing us to approach our meeting tonight with open hearts and open minds.
I pray that the 'fog' clears and my WW's fears are replaced with love.
I thank you God for divinely guiding my words and actions in achieving my hearts true desire.
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Well, tonight apparently wasn't the right night for us to meet. My WW called about an hour before I was supposed to meet her and said she has been in bed with a migraine today. She asked if we could reschedule. I told her that I was sorry to hear she had a migraine and asked her if there was anything I could do for her. I will call her tomorrow to see how she is feeling and ask her when she would like to reschedule our dinner.
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I called my WW this morning. She was still in bed not feeling well. She said this is one of the worst migraines she has ever had. It started on Tuesday night and it is still lingering. She said if she is feeling better later today that we might get together tonight or else try over the weekend. The only problem is that she has the kids back this weekend and could only spare an hour, two at the most and I told her that I didn't want to feel rushed when we got together. So we might have to wait until next week.
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