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Re: what do you guys think? plan a or b?
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am going to call my BIL's soon to be ex wife. she went thru the same thimg but worse with her h. maybe she can help me. she's with someone else now although i cant say i blame her. her h was a louse who had numerous affairs according to my h and their family. now she is living with a policeman. BIL did not want to give up the single life and raise his child.
Re: what do you guys think? plan a or b?
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someone give me some advice. plan a or b? am tired of crying.
Re: what do you guys think? plan a or b?
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Shelly, you should try and do a good plan A for at least 3 months, maybe more. Everyone has their breaking point. Plan B is ineffective it is not done AFTER a good Plan A.

Have you read the theories behind these plans on this site? Do you understand what each plan is about, the objective, and how to do them?

It can be very confusing. Ask specific questions. To your topic questions, you should be Plan A-ing. If you are too upset right now to do that, just give yourself some breathing room and do not have contact with him for a few days. Give your meds time to kick in.

Have you checked out any books? SAA by Dr. Harley has a lot in there about Plans A and B, along with this site - at the top of the page, under Marriage Builders, go to Home. You will find info there.

Hang in there.

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Re: what do you guys think? plan a or b?
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okay, ss. but he wont even admit to me that he is having an A, that he cant stand to be around me. unfortunately he has to be here from 8 am til 5:30 on monday. what to do then?i am so confused right now.i guess i am still shellshocked. he wont give me a chance. i begged him to give me another chance and he just said he didnt want to try anymore. help!

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Re: what do you guys think? plan a or b?
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bump. please help.
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