Michelle,
I feel so badly for you in the circumstances you have found yourself in right now. (No your fault).

You can be strong and get through this. Remember you are a woman ..... God made us stronger than men ... that's why we have babies!
(did that atleast make you smile alittle?)

Alot of BS have been right where you are today and tonight. Just keep "listening" to their advice. It may help you to put things into perspective and focus. It's Saturday .... he can't file tonight?!?! So, give yourself the next couple of days to re-group and calm down. Try to get some rest.

Monday morning, you get on the phone too! Call your doctor for some A-D's, you may even consider calling a lawyer and see what rights you may have for yourself and your D (you don't have to tell him you called - just prepare yourself w/ the information) and may be start to loook into IC (that sometimes takes a little time to get an appointment). You will be a woman on mission. You may find you have a world for "Michelle" and not just all about your WH.

And absolutely *NO* LB"s (Plan A/B?)

Hang in there kiddo - MBers to the rescue.

Brown

ill try.im going insane though. ive been on the phone with my sil and my bil and both think h is a pig. sil told me i need to divorce him and get on with my life.sil is h's brothers exwife, and she went thru a similar situation with her h. she said i would eventually wake upand something would push me over the edge where i wouldnt want to put up with this crap anymore. she got to that point when her h slapped her.there is no domestic abuse in my sitch though. i wonder if she's right? maybe i should just learn to let go.

Shelly -

You won't be able to make decisions right now. It is much too soon. Please settle down, and take care of yourself. You have to relax, and be good to yourself.

All of this stuff is very upsetting. But it does not stay that way. Things do get better.

Shelly
Believer is right.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer:
<strong> Shelly -

You won't be able to make decisions right now. It is much too soon. Please settle down, and take care of yourself. You have to relax, and be good to yourself.

All of this stuff is very upsetting. But it does not stay that way. Things do get better. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You can't think a full focused thought if you are this upset. I need to get some REST. That also means REST for your mind, body and soul. You don't want to put yourself through the ringer b/c of "fog talk".

Keep posting if you're upset.

We'll be looking for you and help if we can .

Brown

well, what a weekend. i finally got to the point where i got extremely angry. maybe it was after lieing on my bedroom floor crying for four hours straight or maybe it was after he said he wanted to see if things worked out with ow before he decided what to do, but i had enough. i called him up and told him calmly to go ahead and file for d, that i cant live like this anymore,i was gonna cut him out of my life so completely until i didnt care if he lived or died. all hell broke loose. he said who is putting these ideas in your head, yesterday you wanted to work it out now you want to leave me?he said i know its pam,(sil). i said all she did was ask me some questions about what i wanted in life, and i sure dont want this.he said pam is a slut and a whore, she cheated on my brother you know, what else did she say? that she would hook you up with some guys she knows? you just cant wait to get out there and start ****ing around can you?it went on and on in this same way and ended with him saying f you, f pam, and if i catch you with another man im beating his [censored]! i hung up. he sends me a text message saing "i do love you so much, i wish you would of talked to me instead your my wife love you!"i ignored it. he showed up at my work at closing time circleing the building, i just got in my car and left. he followed me home and we talked again and i said he basically put a ***** above his wife and d, that i wasnt going to stand for it, and i was done with this whole mess. he said you know im never going to be happy dont you? i said i know.he said ill never let you be happy either. i said go be happy with your ***** thats what you want isnt it.i told him he just wants things to be easy, that she does whatever he tells her and believes all his stupid lies and i could never be that way. i may get knocked down but i come up fighting, i was just knocked down a long time over this thing.i told him let her stand beside you thru all that i have, let her love you unconditionally. he said you think i dont know that your my backbone? i said nothing you say matters, only your actions matter to me, and its me or your *****, theres no 2 ways about it.he said please before you do anything, just give me until sunday to clear my head. i said you can clear your head all you want, mines clear. he also refuses to accept a plan b from me.we went to get something to eat and he tried to make conversation and jokes like nothing happened. i left and said goodbye. well, any advice on what this fool wants?

Shelly 3 You know what you can do if he brings it up again ...Act as if you don't care about the divorce.........Agree with him tell him if that is what you want then fine agree with him keep it short.........make him think for a change........then don't bring it up again ...Were yuou married when you fell in love with him.....NO..........it is just a piece of paper...thats all..........he is in a fog.............Hang in there .I got mine two weeks ago I did not say one word.........It is just a piece of paper..............Frank

Shelley, as the Poster Child for Plan B Failures, trust me...Fog, Fog, Fog. Remorse is not very forthcoming when they are in the throes...believe me, nearly two years into this, and my WH still blames me. The difference between when I first learned and now...I don't care what he says, thinks, who he blames, etc., etc. My life is going great. At one time, I believed him to be my whole world and then some. I cried, ranted, raved, etc., I couldn't survive. My Plan B's were so pathetic that I think Star*Fish and Tak would strangle me. Yet, what I never did, was afford the time necessary to execute the appropriate Plans..for this, I suffered. I whole-heartedly believe, even though my WH is still fence sitting (because of me), that they do come around. It may not be in our time, but when they do, the regret and guilt will be upon their shoulders. You will survive this and no matter what, marriage or no marriage, you will be a stronger person because of it.