I haven't posted in a while. Been very depressed and have started to come to a new sense of reality that I have been scared of for a long time now. I won't go into it, just to make a long story short my husband admitted to having an affair this morning. I guess he doesn't consider it an affair since he already filed divorce papers. He told me this morning he was going to a breakfast meeting with another gentleman from work. Which was a lie. So then the words came out of his mouth "I'm going to meet my girlfriend". I knew I was right all along. My gut feelings, some advice from friends and some clues that he left behind. I tried to ignore it, didn't want to believe it. but it's true. He's found someone else now. Don't know where to go to from here. I guess this is the "sign" that I've been asking God for.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dontwanttolose him:
<strong> I haven't posted in a while. Been very depressed and have started to come to a new sense of reality that I have been scared of for a long time now. I won't go into it, just to make a long story short my husband admitted to having an affair this morning. I guess he doesn't consider it an affair since he already filed divorce papers. He told me this morning he was going to a breakfast meeting with another gentleman from work. Which was a lie. So then the words came out of his mouth "I'm going to meet my girlfriend". I knew I was right all along. My gut feelings, some advice from friends and some clues that he left behind. I tried to ignore it, didn't want to believe it. but it's true. He's found someone else now. Don't know where to go to from here. I guess this is the "sign" that I've been asking God for. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've been looking for you- and was worried when you didn't post. I'm so sorry that this has happened.

Please try to be gentle with yourself. Coping with this while pregnant is too much for anyone to have to deal with. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Are you plan A'ing? When do you have to respond to the filing?

Well, I had been doing a sort of "reverse plan A". Since I was the ww and he the bs. Don't know what to do now. Haven't been back to counseling. Don't know if we will. I'm just so sick right now. He's always told me that he'd never do that to me. That he'd leave me first, which I guess technically he has. We are divorcing, he's just still here. Lying with me every night. He told me he didn't believe in "tit for tat", and I believed it. I just wish he'd have told me this when it first started happening. Instead of dragging me along. I have already counterfiled on him. He already received his papers. I'm currently waiting on a call from lawyer to discuss the mediation.

Please pray for me and my children. I have an appointment here in just a little bit to go to the doctor. Decided it would be smart to go and get "checked". My H always carried two condoms around in his truck above the sunvisor. When he bought a new truck, a couple days after I received my divorce papers, I found a bag of stuff in the garage. It was full of stuff from where he had cleaned out his old truck. Lo and behold, those condom packages were still in there, only one of the condoms was missing. I'm still getting checked anyway.