Just got some good news.

As you know I've been forced out of the house by my wife. I have to vacate by October and then pay her a crippling support check.

Today she told me she made a list of things I can take. She was thinking about ME!

I can have:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A moldy couch from the porch

20 year old speakers that I had before we were married. But nothing to connect them to?

A clock radio with phone. But there is no phone?

Utensils from a box that was going into a garage sale.

Sheets that were used last time we painted.

Folding lawn chairs. (Will look good in my living room)

Box of empty frames

Fireman Lamp (a favorite of mine from pre-marriage that she has tried to throw out for 15 years)

A stack of old towels that we just put in the garage for rags

And some canned food that she won't eat.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think she is coming around. What a sweetheart. Makes me hope we get back together even more now.

Well, at least she is taking your best interests to heart.

And at least it gives us all some really GREAT joke material!

Tom Joad, poster child for no-fault divorce!

Oh Tom, I thought it was REALLY good news. What a disappointment.

Tom, haven't posted to you before, but have somewhat followed your pain and bull$hit this woman has given and continues to give. Like believer, I too really thought it was good news. I'm understanding the pain I caused and damage inflicted--I'm sorry for her from her to you.

You should write a list of bull$hit you now have to live with the rest of your life--even though Tom will be a better person after all of this.

Sorry, I know it's actually not funny, but you put it in such a funny way, it really made me laugh. Amazing. Truly. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

TomJ,

If you can't deal with the bs without some humor you'll go crazy! I definitely know your state of mind.

Tom- I don't know if that was meant to be funny (I think it sort of was?), but I am laughing. So ridiculous! Can u say, FOG HEADED @%#$^! (no-offense intended). How thoughtful she was to leave u that junk.

"I think she is coming around. What a sweetheart. Makes me hope we get back together even more now." Yeah, she is a peach right now eh? LOL. My wife was talking about melting down her wedding ring and turning it into a cross a few months ago. She would never say that now. Your wife should snap out of this cruel nonsense at some point.

I feel for ya Tom. Just remember that it is just stuff, but don't let her rob u blind either if u can help it. U will be in my prayers tonight.

Like Bryan Adams sang : " she got the house and the car, and I got the clothes I got on "
TJ, thats almost cartoon funny I have to say, were your WW so serious about it.

Make sure you find a way to leave fish in the curtain rails.....( do a search on here).
So sorry TJ. Affairs defy physics: they suck AND blow at the same time.

Theres beer waiting for ya in my local pub thousands of miles away br'a. {{{{{TJ}}}}}

TOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
Man don't do that to me, I was pumped when I saw this post. Then I click it and ....
gosh friend, words cannot express how wrong she is. Just plain WRONG! I'm looking for an upside, (searches bag of upsides, rummages thru positive spins, pick me uppers and such) Tom, life does go on. You will survive this. There's always a silver lining. GOD never gives us more than we can handle. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Yeah, I know it didn't work did it? I'm not sure what other people would suggest, but times like this I would be ready to kick some butt and get some revenge and the best revenge is living WELL. Muster all of your frustration and pain into being the best you can be. Do not let this vile situation steal your joy. They have you paying money, alot of money huh? A few years ago I saw an interview with Chris Rock, this was right after he landed that big show on HBO that catapulted his career. Before that show his career was in the toilet, he could only get jobs playing crackheads and weirdos. They asked him how he turned his career around from the car wreck it was to this gargantulan SUCCE$$. Chris said, "I bought a house I couldn't afford and then I had to find a way to pay for it! You'd be amazed what you can do when you don't have a choice!"

This type of mental high-performance supplements work for me. I hope they inspire you in a tiny way. This is just my opinion and they donot in anyway reflect the MB principles or Dr. Harley. I'm saying this to you as a guy you went to school with, a guy from your old neighborhood. Do BETTER! Get BETTER! Don't take no for an answer. She actually gave you some old, dirty rags and felt she was being nice? That burns me UP! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Time for Tom to claim his life. I'm not saying throw the towel in regarding your W, I can hear the 2X4's coming my way, but I have to be me, the real me always. I wish you the best of everything and I pray you have more happiness in your life than you know what to do with.

Being happy is the best revenge and tomorrow sounds like a good day to start plotting your comeback. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Hi Tom,

Alot of things come to mind when I read your post ..... The scene from 'The Jerk' when Steve Martin keeps sayig "This is all I need" ..... You should be thankful these 'priceless' items were not also left in a burning heap ..... or perhaps Mel Brooks in 'History of the Wolrd "Oh p!$$boy .... Aaah, it's good to be the king!"

I suppose the good news is that she made you a 'list' of things you will have to replace, once you get rid of each item .... kinda like 'oh yeah, I need a new set of sheets .... and new towels .....and new clock radio with a phone .... I happen to think she was extremely thoughtful <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

The real good news is you have been given a HUGE opportunity here ......... you can and will survive .......... and you will be the better man inspite of her ..oh I mean becasue of it ( <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

Live and love with humor - because even GOD has a sense of humor <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ September 08, 2004, 05:13 AM: Message edited by: brown ]</small>

Thanks Guys, and Girls... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I wasn't kidding about the list, or the contents. And it does make me laugh, well maybe not laugh, but certainly chuckle.

She also made a list of things she wants me to do to the house before I move out to sleep on the floor. She did it all so nice, when I wasn't receptive (LB'd) she told in such a calm voice "you know, I just can't talk to you" "Can't we just talk?"

As usual her "talks" usually include some type of orders or complaints. But yesterday it was just her "giving". Giving some junk to me, and giving a job list to me. Oh yeah, and the BOOT, and the SHAFT.

Thanks to all you MB'ers out there. Your support has carried me through this so far. And I know I have it far better than some BS on here.

Well off to the firehouse.

She really is quite the piece of work....the English language needs a new word to describe her degree of selfishness...

I think FM had the best advice for you...live well and you will have your revenge..believe me, her little fantasy world will come crashing down on her very soon...i hope by then you will have moved on and created a better life for yourself...with or without someone else

DC,

FM always has good advice.

And always liked your signature line. Have saved it on my quote list. Is it by someone in particular, or is it an Original DreamCatcher line?

Tom -

Like the others, I actually thought I would find good news in this thread <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

But couldn't help LMAO <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You are a fireman for heavens sake, and women LOVE firemen. She must be out of her mind!

And if you do ONE THING on her job list, all of us MB'rs are going to hunt you down and strangle you.

I am going to start calling FamilyMatter "Tony Robbins of MB."

Hey, and on our empowerment weekend, we could see if the individual can get through some sort of difficult obstacle to prove their strength and resolve...lez see...hmmm...well, Tony does that whole walking on hot coals (I have done it twice, it was awesome)...he also does this high wire thing....

ooooo ooooooo oooooo...I know....

Survive, rise above, be better from, learn from, stand tall after, make the right choices during and after, be strengthened, draw closer to your God AFTER AN AFFAIR!

FM is right. The best way to look this evil in the eye and win, is to live better, and not get sucked in and not become bitter. Nothing will piss the devil off worse than being EVEN MORE joy filled, happy, fulfilled, at peace, loving, and trusting of God despite what your wife is doing (your wife is not an evil person by nature, in my opinion, just losing that very fight you should win, and under the influence of a very powerful evil force).

You are a good guy...keep being a good guy!!!

And while you're at it, Tom, could you raise all the ceilings in the house by 3 inches? (with apologies 2 Tim Allen, who I stole that from).

-ol' 2long

And while you're at it, Tom, could you raise all the ceilings in the house by 3 inches? (with apologies 2 Tim Allen, who I stole that from).

-ol' 2long

<small>[ December 03, 2004, 12:59 PM: Message edited by: lovemyhubby ]</small>

I did get a chuckle out of your thread but I know it is hard for you. I'm sorry! Hang in there. My WH sends me emails "trying" to help me deal with things and move on and be happy! Easy for him to say because he has OW! Uggghhhhh! I just want to puke!