HINC,

The sign up ahead says 60. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Do take good care of your kids, they are grown, but they are still YOUR kids, and they will need your help, guidance, and for you to set the example.

Show them the strength you have, the grace with which to handle a tragedy, and the love in your heart.

God Bless,

JL

JL on a personal note. From your wise counsel I have to assume that you have been through something like I am currently experiencing?

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Originally posted by Just Learning:


You will be fine either way. If you lose your love for her, you will move on, be divorced, and able to find a woman that you will like and love, and who does the same for you. If she comes back and you still love her, you have the opportunity for the same result.

HINC, you have learned alot here and from this experience. You have done your best and you have grown. You will never look at marriage the same way, but I know this you will cherish like you never did before.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">JL .... REALLY inspiring and beautiful .... thank you so much for writing this.

Pep

HINC,

I have lost a few things in my life and more than a few people, but I have not lost a W. So, what you are hearing from is based on losing other people in my life. Still, the truth is you are going to have a future, no matter what happens. You are going to have friends, your children, and you are going to have opportunities that you cannot as yet see.

It has been my observation that this is pretty much always the case. The trick is to be in position to take advantage of opportunities. Hence my advice to you.

I don't have time right now, but if you can find K's story in the Why Women Leave Men portion of this site, you will get a whole new concept of OPPORTUNITY. He came to see his W being pregnant by her OM, as an OPPORTUNITY and he seized it. They are still married and #3 is OM's child. Actually, the correct and accurate way to say it is the #3 is K's child and he will proudly tell you that.

I have learned many things since I came here, but probably the most profound was from K about what it means to have an OPPORTUNITY, when all else see it as the end.

This is what I am trying to impart to you. Your W's decision to leave is an OPPORTUNITY for you. It will allow you to face your fear of being alone. It will allow you the chance to rebuild a marriage, if she decides to come back and IF you decide she is worth the effort. It allows you a chance to find a woman that doesn't think having affairs is the way to address relationship problems.

HINC, no matter what happens you now have an OPPORTUNITY to change things and make your life better and someone very happy for having known you. It is yours for the taking HINC. Go with it, and see where your OPPORTUNITY takes you. Your life will NOT be boring. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

God Bless,

JL

Great advice as always JL. Thank you for taking the time and effort to support me and others like me on this board. You are truly and amazing person and I am endebted to you.