Those are nice gestures indeed. However, expect that no matter how much you gesture she will still have trust issues with you. I am telling you this so that you can expect it and not react hurt or angry. Her trust has been violated and only time will be able to rebuild some of what has been lost. You are doing the right things.

C.

Had my appt with Dr Harley yesterday and also with my personal counselor, Did my homework for Dr.Harley. Personal counselor helped me greatly by installing a plan to make sure this doesnt happen again. It's too long to go into but it's sure fire. Wife and I had major break through last night. For the first time I am confident we are going to be O.K. This gives me the strength to push on with enthusiasm. Although I don't deserve it, my wife added to my love bank, I really needed it. Time to get on with healing the great pain I have caused this wonderful perfect woman. Anybody have a time machine I can rent? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey, that is GREAT news. Later when you are rested up, I'd like to hear more of the "surefire" plan. Lot's of people here could use the help.

Shmaley, To be honest I never expect her to trust me again. I am willing to except that without being hurt or angry. I did this, not her. Besides, I love spending all my free time with her <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well I havent posted on this thread in over a week so I will give an update. Things are going well. Painfully slow but well. With a lot of help from SH and a lot of determination I believe we will survive this nightmare. Wife has yet to post here but she reads alot. I can feel the love returning to our marriage even though her anger is still strong (can't blame her). We have great times and bad as everybody does, but I am commited to making this work if it kills me. Finally told me today over lunch that gifts were o.k. now. Not that I can afford much with living on my own and all the MC/IC but it's a great sign things are getting better. Although I am not home yet, intimacy has returned to our marriage and it's better than it ever was or ever thought it could be for both of us. I believe this will be my last post on general questions, I think we have graduated onto the recovery board.

<small>[ September 24, 2004, 03:55 PM: Message edited by: SleeplessInSF ]</small>

Hey SISF,

Great news to start.I sincerely hope that you will both continue to keep working at your marriage to make it what you BOTH want,it is within your power to have it.I hope you realize that.

Don't be a stranger though.Keep us updated!

O

P.S. If you're reading Mrs.Sleepless,welcome to MB! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Octobergirl, my wife finally posted!!!! You can find her post on the recovery board! Can't tell you how much hope it gave me that she posted on that board. Her post is under sleeplessinsftoo.

ALRIGHT!!

I'm on my way over.

O <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />