</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by jetgirl63:
<strong> hi sadfww,
thanxs for thinking of me. i'm okay. not great, but i'll take it. had a crazy weekend---my h slipped and fell on the tile and smashed his face...he's got a big bruise on the cheek bone, a stiff neck and back. so, i watched over him...i know i really love him. what have i done?? he loves me the best way he knows how. maybe when i met om it wasn't enough for me. i know i didn't feel loved, but i knew he loved me. do i make any sense? i wonder....i haven't talked to om..look, i'm alive! alittle cranky, but alive. meanwhile, just taking it one day at a time, and rooting for the yankees and the jets!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Your poor husband ! Ouch!

One thing I wanted to comment on: you said maybe when i met om it wasn't enough for me.

You know, I think that a lot of WW's have this in common. We lack self-esteem - confidence in ourselves in some way, and the attentions of the OM seem to fill that hole. The problem is, that having an EN met- when the relationship is built on lies and deceptions only ends up damaging us more- and further damages the perception we have of ourselves. What we NEED to do, and what I am "Just Learning" (ha! a play on words) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> to do is to coach my husband into filling the needs I have for me. He isn't a mind reader- he doesn't KNOW what I am lacking unless I show him. I am certain that as you pull yourself out of this hole- and begin to actively work on your marriage-that your H will surprise you- and that his love will be ALL you need.


One day at a time is all you can do- and the best thing for you right now. Just remember to keep breathing, and the light will grow stronger.