Yeah, I've been keeping up.

You're not in any kind of Plan B, from what I remember, other than the semi-kind of Plan B imposed by your husband.

My point is if you're concerned, perhaps you should call.

Ethan

just got another email from H, says that people are not supposed to leave their houses right now. he's not staying in the city that our house is in and apparently the road to get to the city our house is in is currently flooded so he can't even get to our house. good news is that our house is kind of on a hill and is not in a flood zone so we shouldn't have any problems that way (we have flood insurance anyway though). he says he will try to get out to our house tomorrow.

i still have mixed feelings about calling him. i guess if i hadn't heard from him yesterday or today i would have called but he did email me. i guess i just don't see the point in calling him because he wouldn't answer it and maybe i'm in my own protective phase right now. i would just be hurt to call and him not answer but like i said if i hadn't heard from him via email i would have called, he is afterall still my H, regardless of how he feels and i still love him. there is some truth to "out of sight out of mind" which is exactly why he doesn't want to have anything to do w/me anymore, it's not because he's worried about me which is what he has tried to "say" it's because he just doesn't like thoughts of me getting into his head and making him feel guilty, that's EXACTLY the reason why he doesn't want to talk to me.

well i've kind of ranted and vented on this "hurricane fun" thread about my own problems. hope things start to finally settle down for all those along the coasts and inland from these storms. although from what i understand hurricane season lasts until november. continued prayers to all, RR

RR,


RR,

This is such a classic example of a conflict avoider. He thinks that by not talking to you anymore, not hearing your voice on the phone, not seeing your face, it will eventually just disappear in the air and he probably actually believes that this is going to make it easier on him and you.

The fact is that he knows how much he has hurt you and sooner or later it is going to haunt him. It is very likely that his relationship with his child-OW is probably not going to be a fairy tale in heaven for the rest of his life. It is actually very likely that he is going to get very hurt. I always remember those notes that you found when he was so insecure and jealous because she wanted to work at the Mall. Well, he can't shelter and hide her forever.

Anyway, you sound stronger every day and I'm glad that you are doing alright under the circumstances. I think, a good life lies ahead of you.

Kati

Thanks Kati <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />